成為極品女人的十大要素

1. Get to know your authentic self. 認(rèn)清真實(shí)的自己。

Discover the real you. Don't blindly accept the role you were conditioned by others to fill. You have your own path to follow. Be your own independent person. Don't allow peer pressure to force you into an inauthentic role.發(fā)現(xiàn)真實(shí)的自己。不要盲目接受別人習(xí)慣施加給你的角色。你有自己的路去走。成為獨(dú)立自主的個(gè)體。不要在壓力的屈從下扮演不真實(shí)的自己。

2. Own your power. 擁有自己的力量。

Accept full responsibility for your life. Don't live as a doormat, a sheep, or a victim. Stop giving away your power. You must accept that you're the creator of your life and that no one is coming to rescue you.承擔(dān)起你生活中應(yīng)付的所有責(zé)任。不要活得像個(gè)擦鞋墊、綿羊或者受害者。不要放棄你的力量。你必須認(rèn)為自己是生活的創(chuàng)造者，沒(méi)有人會(huì)來(lái)拯救你。

3. Find your voice. 傾聽(tīng)自己的聲音。

Build the courage to express yourself authentically. Speak your truth. You deserve to be heard. If others react negatively, that's their problem. Ask for what you want; you can't expect others to be mind-readers. You teach others how you want to be treated--not by dropping hints but by telling them directly. If you don't speak up for yourself, who will? 真實(shí)地建立起表達(dá)自己的勇氣。說(shuō)出你的事實(shí)。你值得別人傾聽(tīng)。如果別人反應(yīng)很消極，那是他們的問(wèn)題。問(wèn)問(wèn)自己想要什么；不能指望別人能讀懂你的心。告訴別人你想被如何對(duì)待——不是給出提示而是直接告訴他們。如果你不能為自己大聲說(shuō)出需求，還有誰(shuí)會(huì)為你這樣做呢？

4. Find your tribe. 尋找自己的部落。

Consciously build and nurture a supportive network of positive relationships, including family and friends. Drop relationships that drain you; maintaining them is self-abuse. If you don't like your current relationships, it's up to you to change that. Surround yourself with good people who love you and inspire you. You deserve the very best relationships.有意識(shí)地建立和培養(yǎng)一個(gè)積極的包括家庭和朋友在內(nèi)的人際關(guān)系網(wǎng)，結(jié)束拖你后腿的關(guān)系；維持這些關(guān)系純屬自責(zé)。如果你不喜歡當(dāng)下的關(guān)系，那么自己決定是否改變。讓圍繞在你周?chē)亩际菒?ài)你和鼓舞你的人。你值得擁有最好的人際關(guān)系。

5. Practice self-care. 照顧好自己的感受。

Give yourself permission to do what you enjoy. Demands from other people can wait. Accept that you can't do everything for everyone. You can't give to others when you're empty inside.允許自己做喜歡的事情。別人的需要可以等等。認(rèn)清自己不能為所有的人做所有的事。當(dāng)你內(nèi)心空虛的時(shí)候，你便無(wú)法施與他人。

6. Express your creative side. 表達(dá)你的創(chuàng)造性。

Cultivate outlets for creative self-expression. Explore music, art, writing, poetry, etc. Be artistic. Put your ideas into physical form. 培養(yǎng)表達(dá)創(chuàng)造性的渠道，比如音樂(lè)，藝術(shù)，書(shū)法，詩(shī)歌等等。建立一套商業(yè)模式。讓自己充滿藝術(shù)感。把你的想法以自然的形式表露出來(lái)。

7. Embrace conscious sexuality. 擁抱有意識(shí)的性行為。

You and you alone must decide the role sex will play in your life. There are no right or wrong answers. If you want it and enjoy it, let that be enough. Different women had widely varying opinions on what kind of sexual expression they personally preferred, ranging from waiting until marriage to having guilt-free one-night stands. 你必須自己決定性在你的生命中扮演的角色。你的答案沒(méi)有對(duì)錯(cuò)之分。如果你想要而且樂(lè)在其中，那就讓自己滿足。不同的女性在性愛(ài)好方面存在很大的差異，有人一直等到結(jié)婚才會(huì)過(guò)性生活，有人則喜歡無(wú)罪的一夜情。

8. Be beautiful. 讓自己美麗。

True beauty comes from the inside. It can't be found beneath a load of cosmetics and surgical alterations. Recognize that you're a beautiful person on the inside, and you'll broadcast that awareness on the outside. You are beautiful.真正的美發(fā)自?xún)?nèi)心。濃妝和整容不能使你美麗。讓自己的內(nèi)在成為一個(gè)美麗的人，然后通過(guò)外表傳播出去，你就是美麗的。

9. Keep your heart open. 打開(kāi)自己的心靈。

Regardless of how badly you may have been hurt in the past, keep your heart open. You're stronger than you think. The rewards of love outweigh the risks of being hurt again. You're here to express love, not to live in fear.無(wú)論以前受了多么嚴(yán)重的傷害，你都要敞開(kāi)心扉。你比自己想像的要堅(jiān)強(qiáng)。愛(ài)的回報(bào)勝于再次受傷害?；钤谑郎暇褪菫榱吮磉_(dá)愛(ài)，而不是為了憂慮。

10. Become wise. 讓自己明智起來(lái)。

You are highly intuitive, so work on deepening your ability to trust your intuition. Keep learning and growing. In the long run, your wisdom will become one of your greatest assets, both as a way to meet your own needs and to help others. (Many women placed a very high value on developing their wisdom.) 你的直覺(jué)很好，所以應(yīng)該深化這種能力，相信自己的直覺(jué)。保持學(xué)習(xí)和成長(zhǎng)。從長(zhǎng)遠(yuǎn)來(lái)看，你的智慧會(huì)成為自己最大的資產(chǎn)之一，這對(duì)于滿足自己的要求和幫助別人都是如此。(許多女性把增強(qiáng)智慧看得很重。)

Being a man or woman isn't about blindly following popular gender patterns, nor is it about rejecting such patterns out of hand and rebelliously embracing their opposites. Ultimately you must define what kind of man or woman you will become. This is a choice you must make for yourself as an individual, regardless of what anyone else thinks. What kind of man/woman do you wish to be? Life awaits your answer…..做一名男性或者女性并不是盲目地去遵從流行的性別模式，也不是全盤(pán)否定這些模式而叛逆地反其道而行。從根本上說(shuō)，你必須決定自己希望成為什么樣的男人或女人。無(wú)論他人怎樣想，作為一個(gè)個(gè)體，你必須為自己做出選擇。你希望成為什么樣的男人/女人？生活等待著你的答案……