Hi. I'm here to talk to you about the importance of praise, admiration and thank you, and having it be specific and genuine.

　　嗨。我在這里要和大家談?wù)?向別人表達(dá)贊美，傾佩和謝意的重要性。 并使它們聽來真誠(chéng)，具體。

　　And the way I got interested in this was, I noticed in myself, when I was growing up, and until about a few years ago, that I would want to say thank you to someone, I would want to praise them, I would want to take in their praise of me and I'd just stop it. And I asked myself, why? I felt shy, I felt embarrassed. And then my question became, am I the only one who does this? So, I decided to investigate.

　　之所以我對(duì)此感興趣 是因?yàn)槲覐奈易约旱某砷L(zhǎng)中注意到幾年前， 當(dāng)我想要對(duì)某個(gè)人說聲謝謝時(shí)， 當(dāng)我想要贊美他們時(shí)， 當(dāng)我想接受他們對(duì)我的贊揚(yáng)， 但我卻沒有說出口。 我問我自己，這是為什么? 我感到害羞，我感到尷尬。 接著我產(chǎn)生了一個(gè)問題 難道我是唯一一個(gè)這么做的人嗎? 所以我決定做些探究。

　　I'm fortunate enough to work in the rehab facility, so I get to see people who are facing life and death with addiction. And sometimes it comes down to something as simple as, their core wound is their father died without ever saying he's proud of them. But then, they hear from all the family and friends that the father told everybody else that he was proud of him, but he never told the son. It's because he didn't know that his son needed to hear it.

　　我非常幸運(yùn)的在一家康復(fù)中心工作， 所以我可以看到那些因?yàn)樯习a而面臨生與死的人。 有時(shí)候這一切可以非常簡(jiǎn)單地歸結(jié)為， 他們最核心的創(chuàng)傷來自于他們父親到死都未說過“他為他們而自豪”。 但他們從所有其它家庭或朋友那里得知 他的父親告訴其他人為他感到自豪， 但這個(gè)父親從沒告訴過他兒子。 因?yàn)樗恢浪膬鹤有枰牭竭@一切。

　　So my question is, why don't we ask for the things that we need? I know a gentleman, married for 25 years, who's longing to hear his wife say, "Thank you for being the breadwinner, so I can stay home with the kids," but won't ask. I know a woman who's good at this. She, once a week, meets with her husband and says, "I'd really like you to thank me for all these things I did in the house and with the kids." And he goes, "Oh, this is great, this is great." And praise really does have to be genuine, but she takes responsibility for that. And a friend of mine, April, who I've had since kindergarten, she thanks her children for doing their chores. And she said, "Why wouldn't I thank it, even though they're supposed to do it?"