注：加粗+下劃線代表雙語對照重點。

1. Being able to banter when you first start talking to a girl is one of the most important and effective ways to get her attention right away. Once you've bantered for a couple minutes, it's alright to switch gears and talk about something a little bit more serious or personal. Showing her that you've got the contrast between playfulness and seriousness will show you to be a guy who is multi-faceted, not a one-note Johnny.
1. 第一次跟女孩兒搭訕時，讓她注意到你的最重要且有效的方法就是開玩笑。開過幾分鐘玩笑后，是時候轉(zhuǎn)換話題了，跟她談?wù)撘稽c稍稍嚴(yán)肅或私人的話題。讓她感受到你既有趣又認(rèn)真，是個性格多樣而非單調(diào)無趣的人。

2. For whatever reason, nothing screams neediness in a guy more than a huge, gleaming, ear to ear smile. Think of smirking as the smile's more seductive, more confident older brother. It's otherwise known as the eye smile, and it's extremely effective at communicating your feelings non-verbally.?It's alright to practice in the mirror for a few minutes. Once you've got this down by yourself, it'll be time to try it out in real life.
2. 不管原因是什么，那種從左耳朵笑到右耳朵、笑到滿臉褶子的燦爛笑容對男人來說真的一點也不必要。想想看，那種自鳴得意的壞笑才更誘人，更像個自信的哥哥。這種笑又被稱為用眼鏡笑，在交談中微笑不用言語就能很好的傳遞你的感受。你可以在鏡子前練習(xí)幾分鐘。當(dāng)你搞定了自己的笑容，你就可以在現(xiàn)實中大顯身手了。

3. Offering an original compliment is a really effective way to flirt. You can all but guarantee the girl you're trying to talk to has heard most of the more clichéd compliments dozens of times over the better part of her adult life.
3. 新穎的贊美是調(diào)情的有效法寶。與其說一些陳詞濫調(diào)的贊美讓女孩毫無感覺，還不如嘗試贊美她一些更微妙的方面，這會給她很特別的感覺。

4. A man who pays attention to detail and remembers the little things will always go further than his less-observant peers. So if you're chatting up a girl, especially one you've just met, pay attention to the little things and try to casually mention them later on. This will show her that you're different than most of the guys she talks to -- which will go a long way.
4. 一個注重細(xì)節(jié)和記住小事的男人總是比粗心大條的人更勝一籌。當(dāng)你跟初次見面的女孩閑聊時，關(guān)注一些小事，在后面的交往中不經(jīng)意地提起。女孩會覺得你與其他男孩不同，這將有助于進(jìn)一步交往。

5. When guys are starting to hit it off with a girl they're interested in, a lot of the time they get worried that if they let the conversation die or let her out of their sight for a moment, she'll lose interest. Most of the time, this couldn't be further from the truth. If things are going well, don't be afraid to leave her with a cliffhanger and excuse yourself for a moment. It will make you come off as a lot more confident than trying to drag on the conversation long enough to rival the ending of a Lord of the Rings film.
5. 當(dāng)男孩和自己感興趣的女孩相處合拍時，經(jīng)常會擔(dān)心談話中冷場或?qū)⑴⒘涝谝贿厱屌⑹ヅd趣。大多數(shù)時候，這月事實相去甚遠(yuǎn)。如果一切進(jìn)展順利，別擔(dān)心驚險刺激的情節(jié)中離開她一會兒。試著拖延談話時間就像看指環(huán)王電影的大結(jié)局，失陪片刻會顯得你更有自信。

6. If you ask any woman out there the qualities that she looks for in a man, you can all but guarantee a sense of humor is going to be on the list -- and for many, it's near the top.
6. 如果問任何一個女人看中男人哪些品質(zhì)，幽默感肯定榜上有名，并且接近榜首。

7. One thing that a lot of guys forget to do or are afraid to do when flirting with women is to add a little seduction into the conversation. Tension is a huge aphrodisiac and a great thing to take advantage of when you are flirting.
7. 在調(diào)情中說些誘惑的話是很多男人忘記或害怕做的一件事。當(dāng)你在調(diào)情是，氣氛緊張是一劑大大的春藥，它能讓你占到大便宜。

This will serve as somewhat of a test. If she doesn't respond after a minute, you should probably go back to what you were doing before -- but if she does, it may be a sign she wants to escalate things physically.
這將作為一個測試。如果她一分鐘后還沒有回應(yīng)，你就當(dāng)什么都沒發(fā)生過。但是如果她有回應(yīng)，這可能是她希望提升彼此關(guān)系的一個信號。

9. The "triangle look" is by far the best thing you can do when you're connecting with a woman and you're ready to take things to the next level. Here's how it works: Once you've already had some light banter and you're pretty certain things are going well, try looking into one eye, then the other eye, then down to her lips, and back to her eyes. Finish it off with a little smirk.
9. 迄今為止，“三點視”是雙方關(guān)系準(zhǔn)備進(jìn)入下一層次時男女交流的最好方法。看看它是如何起作用的：輕松的逗笑過后，在你能確定氣氛很好的情況下，試著注視她的一只眼睛，然后另外一只，然后往下看她的嘴唇，再回到她的雙眼。然后以一個壞笑結(jié)束以上動作。

10. It's no secret that girls like to feel special. If we're being honest here, so do guys. Deep down, each and every one of us wants to believe that we really are unique, attractive, and interesting.
10. 眾所周知，女孩們都喜歡感到自己很特別。坦率地講，男人們也是如此。本質(zhì)上，我們每個人都愿意相信自己是獨一無二、有吸引力和風(fēng)趣的。

Before you go off ignoring your surroundings and pretending there's nothing else in the universe at that moment besides her, you want to make sure she knows that you are a valuable, interesting person yourself.
和她在一起時，你要忽略周圍的存在，并裝作眼里只有她一人，但在這之前，你一定要讓她了解到你本人是個值得珍惜并且有趣的人。

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