If you want to know how others treat you, the best starting place is to look at how you treat others.
如果你想知道其他人如何對(duì)待你，最好的起點(diǎn)是看你如何對(duì)待別人。
And if you don't like the way you're treated, there's only one course of action—to change your own behavior, because you can't change anyone else's.
如果你不喜歡別人對(duì)待你的方式，只有改變自己行為這一個(gè)行動(dòng)路線，因?yàn)槟悴荒芨淖儎e人。
Relationships function like a mirror--eventually that change will reflect back onto how you are treated.
人際關(guān)系交往就像一面鏡子，最終你對(duì)待別人這個(gè)改變會(huì)映射到別人怎么對(duì)待你。
Here are nine important principles to remember about how to treat others:
這里9項(xiàng)關(guān)于如何對(duì)待別人的重要原則需要銘記：

1. Instead of judging people by their past, stand by them and help them build their future.
1. 與其通過(guò)過(guò)去評(píng)價(jià)別人，不如與他們肩并肩幫助他們建立未來(lái)。

Everyone has a past. Some are a source of pride, and others are best left behind. But whatever their past, people do change and grow, so instead of judging, stand by and support them as they move toward their future. Treat them with respect and make their journey your own.
每人都有過(guò)去。有些是自豪之源，其他最好留在過(guò)去。但是無(wú)論他們的過(guò)去是什么，人們確實(shí)在改變和成長(zhǎng)，所以與其評(píng)價(jià)過(guò)去，不如在他們走向未來(lái)時(shí)肩并肩地支持他們。滿懷尊重地對(duì)待他們并把他們的旅程當(dāng)作你自己的。

2. Listen with curiosity, speak with candor, and act with integrity.
2. 帶著好奇傾聽(tīng)，坦白地講話并正直地行動(dòng)。

Listening and curiosity allow relationships to thrive. Speaking your truth allows people to be honest with themselves and with you, and acting with integrity keeps relationships on a high standard. Relationships need curiosity to grow, candor to deepen, and integrity to continue.
傾聽(tīng)與好奇讓人際關(guān)系生根發(fā)芽。真實(shí)地表達(dá)讓人們誠(chéng)實(shí)地面對(duì)自己和你，并正直地行動(dòng)保持人際關(guān)系在一個(gè)高標(biāo)準(zhǔn)。人際關(guān)系需要好奇來(lái)維持、坦率來(lái)增進(jìn)、正直來(lái)繼續(xù)。

3. Treat everyone with kindness--not because they are kindhearted, but because you are.
3. 友善地對(duì)待每一個(gè)人，并非因?yàn)樗麄冃牡厣屏?，而是因?yàn)槟闶沁@樣的人。

One of the greatest gifts we can give another is kindness. If someone is in need, lend a helping hand. Don't do it only for the people you like and respect--that's easy--but also for the ones who drive you crazy and those you don't even know. True kindness lies in the act of giving without the expectation of getting something in return.
我們能給別人的最好的禮物之一是友善。如果別人需要，幫一把手。不要因?yàn)槭悄阆矚g或尊重的人才幫，那比較簡(jiǎn)單，而是要對(duì)那些使你發(fā)瘋或者不知道的人也要如此。真正的友善在于真誠(chéng)地付出而不要求回報(bào)。

4. Don't try to make yourself great by making someone else look small.
4. 不要試圖使別人渺小來(lái)成就自己的偉大。

The moment you think you have the right to belittle others because you are better than they are is the moment you prove you have no power. People tend to make others feel how they themselves feel, whether it's great or small. If you can't offer help, support, or love, at least do everything in your power not to hurt them or make them feel small. Treat everyone you meet with honor.
你認(rèn)為自己比他們好所以有權(quán)利貶低他們的時(shí)刻就是你證明自己沒(méi)有權(quán)力的時(shí)候。無(wú)論那感覺(jué)是偉大還是渺小，人們傾向于使別人感覺(jué)他們所感覺(jué)的。如果你不能提供幫助、支持或者關(guān)愛(ài)，至少在你權(quán)力內(nèi)做一些事情不傷害他們或者使他們感覺(jué)渺小的事情。尊重地對(duì)待你見(jiàn)到的每一個(gè)人。

5. Remember, everyone has a story.
5. 記住，每人都有故事。

It may be something they've gone through in the past or something they're still dealing with, but remember that behavior doesn't happen in a vacuum. Everyone has inner battles and issues. Withhold judgment and instead offer the consideration you'd like to receive.
它可能是他們過(guò)去經(jīng)歷的或者一些他們?nèi)栽谔幚淼氖?，但記住行為不憑空產(chǎn)生。每人都有內(nèi)在的斗爭(zhēng)與問(wèn)題。保留判斷而不是提供你想得到的體貼。

6. We don't meet people by accident.
6. 我們遇見(jiàn)的人不是偶然。

Every person you meet will have a role in your life, be it big or small. Some will help you grow, some will hurt you, some will inspire you to do better. At the same time, you are playing some role in their lives as well. Know that paths cross for a reason and treat people with significance.
無(wú)論大小，你見(jiàn)到的每一個(gè)人將在你的人生中扮演一個(gè)角色。一些人幫助你成長(zhǎng)，一些人傷害你，一些人激勵(lì)你做的更好。與此同時(shí)，你也在他們的人生中扮演一定的角色。知道道路不會(huì)無(wú)緣無(wú)故交錯(cuò)，有意義地對(duì)待別人。

7. The best teachers are those who don't tell you how to get there but show the way.
7. 最佳的老師，并非授人以魚(yú)，而是授人以漁。

There is no better joy then helping people see a vision for themselves, seeing them go to levels higher than they ever would have imagined on their own. But that doesn't mean you have to fix them or enable them; instead, guide them to the source of their own power. Offer them support and motivation as they find their own way and show you what they're capable of. All you have to do is believe in them.
再?zèng)]有比幫助別人自己看到未來(lái)、看到他們到達(dá)了他們?cè)瓉?lái)也沒(méi)想到的高度讓人更高興的事了。但這不意味著你不得不更正他們或者武裝他們，取而代之的是，引導(dǎo)他們到達(dá)自己的能力之源。當(dāng)他們找到自己的路并展示給你他們的能力時(shí)，提供給他們幫助和激勵(lì)。你所做的就是相信他們。

8. Never look down on someone unless you are helping them up.
8. 絕不輕視他人，除非你在幫助他們成長(zhǎng)。

We like to think of life as a meritocracy, so it's easy to look down on someone who isn't as successful or accomplished or well educated as you are. But you have no idea how far that person has already climbed or where they will end up. Time could easily reverse your positions, so be sure you treat everyone with dignity.
我們喜歡相信生活是精英統(tǒng)治，所以很容易看低那些還沒(méi)有像你一樣成功，或有成就，或受過(guò)良好教育的人。但是你不知道那個(gè)人已經(jīng)攀登到哪里或?qū)⒁谀睦锝Y(jié)束。時(shí)間會(huì)很容易地翻轉(zhuǎn)你們的位置，所以一定要尊重地對(duì)待別人。

9. Appreciate those who have supported you, forgive those who have hurt you, help those who need you.
9. 欣賞那些支持你的人，原諒那些傷害你的人，幫助那些需要你的人。

Business is complicated, life is complex, and leadership is difficult. Treat all people--including yourself--with love and compassion, and you can't go wrong.
生意是復(fù)雜的，生活是難懂的，領(lǐng)導(dǎo)者是難當(dāng)?shù)?。滿懷愛(ài)和同情地對(duì)待所有人，包括你自己，這樣你才不會(huì)犯錯(cuò)。
Treat people the way you want to be treated and life will instantly get better.
對(duì)待他人，如同你所希望被對(duì)待的方式，生活也因此更美好。

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