1. Take Her Off That Pedestal
消除她的地位

First things: Stop acting like your ex was God’s gift to men. She wasn’t perfect. If we’re being honest, she probably wasn’t even close. Make a list of her annoying traits. Let your buddies bad-mouth her. Do whatever you have to do -- just take her off that pedestal.
第一件事情就是：別再把你的前任當(dāng)做是上帝賜給你的禮物了。她并不是完美的。老實(shí)說，她甚至還差得遠(yuǎn)呢。列一個她的缺點(diǎn)清單。讓你的兄弟們說她的壞話。做一些你必須做的事——把她從你的心里抹去。

2. Get Closure
跟她絕交

Step two for getting over your ex: get closure. If you’re going to break up with her, don’t put it off. Make sure you’re both on the same page. This is a breakup, not a “break.” The two of you are moving on, which means potentially seeing other people. If you feel the need to do a relationship postmortem, do it now. You won’t be seeing her again for a while.
忘掉前任的第二步：跟她絕交。如果你想要跟她分手，那就別磨磨嘰嘰。要確保你的想法是一致的。這就是分手，而不是“暫時分開”。你們兩個人都會向前看，這就意味著你們會跟別的人在一起。如果你覺得你應(yīng)該做一個戀愛檢討，現(xiàn)在就做。暫時別再見她了。

3. Don't Contact Her
別聯(lián)系她

This may be the most important of our 9 tips for getting over your ex. After you’ve gotten closer, don’t contact her. Go cold turkey. Seriously. Maybe you said some crap about trying to stay friends, maybe you made some idiot vow to “always be there for each other,” but forget it. By staying in touch with old flames, you’re asking for months of on-again-off-again uncertainty.
這也許是我們這9個忘掉前任的點(diǎn)子中最重要的一個了。雖然曾經(jīng)彼此那么親近，但千萬別再聯(lián)系她了。把這個壞習(xí)慣趕緊戒掉。真心的。也許你會說些繼續(xù)做朋友的廢話狡辯，也可能會發(fā)一些傻瓜似得誓言說“永遠(yuǎn)陪在彼此身邊，”但是忘了這些東西吧。跟舊情人保持聯(lián)系，你就是在不確定里幾個月都這樣藕斷絲連。??

So, throw out her phone number, stop texting her and unfriend her on Facebook. Imagine how freaked out you'll be the first time you see some strange dude in her profile picture, and you'll see why a clean break is essential.
所以說，刪掉她的聯(lián)系方式，別發(fā)短信給她，臉書上也別加她為好友了。想象一下，當(dāng)你第一次看到陌生的紈绔子弟出現(xiàn)在她的相冊里的時候，你會有多么驚訝，到那時，你就知道為什么干凈地分手有多么重要了。

4. Work Out
忘記

Without a girlfriend gobbling up hours out of every day, you may be wondering what to do with yourself. Now that you’re single, we suggest hitting the gym or taking a jog. It’s a healthy way to work out all of that post-breakup frustration. Getting in shape is also a good way to boost your self-esteem. And don’t forget: The gym is a great place to meet women.
每天沒有女朋友占用你的大把時間了，你可能會想想自己要做些什么呢?，F(xiàn)在你是單身了，我們建議去健身房或者去慢跑一下。這是種很健康的方式，能讓你忘懷所有關(guān)于分手之后的沮喪感。鍛煉身體也是個很好的方式來加強(qiáng)你的自尊心。并且別忘了：運(yùn)動場是個很棒的地方，那里可以遇到美女哦。

5.Don't Try Getting Your Stuff Back
別再試著把你的東西拿回來

By the same token, you don’t want to try to get your stuff back. You can’t have a relationship relapse if you don’t allow yourself to see your ex. Forget about all that stuff you left at her place. Consider it gone. The $50 you’re going to have to spend to replace a few DVDs is a small price to pay to avoid an ex-girlfriend who could be either desperately needy or irrationally angry.
同樣地，你別想著要去把你的東西拿回來了。如果你不讓自己見你的前任的話，你就不能把你的東西都拿回來。忘記所有你留在她那里的東西。想著那些都丟了。你花50塊去重新買一些DVD就當(dāng)是拿來支付避免再次見到那個窮困潦倒又無理取鬧的前任的。