你和女士約會時,從你口中說出的第一句話必然是:“你看上去美極了?!?/div>
小編提示:即使你們在戀愛,真正的紳士都會像初見你時那樣,真摯用心的贊美你。
6. A gentleman helps her to be seated.
紳士幫助她就坐。
1) Pull the chair out for her.
為她拉開椅子。
2) As her knees bend to sit, gently push the chair in with both hands on the backrest.
當她屈膝坐下時,輕輕雙手為她推進椅背。
小編提示:把這點記在你的約會筆記里,是迅速提升好感的方法哦~
7. A gentleman says "please" and "thank you."
紳士會說“請”和“謝謝”。
Far too often overlooked, a simple "please" and "thank you" can go a very long way.
常常被忽略的一句簡單的“請”和“謝謝”恒久受用。
8. A gentleman minds his table manners.
紳士注重他的餐桌禮節(jié)。
Even if you've never mastered the continental style of using utensils (left hand, fork; right hand, knife), it doesn't take any training to not talk with your mouth full or chew with your mouth open.
即使你從不精通于使用歐式餐具(左手拿叉右手拿刀),嘴里塞得滿滿,或是咀嚼東西的時候不要開口說話,這不需要任何訓練吧。
9. A gentleman is never rude to servers, bartenders, or anyone else for that matter.
紳士從不因任何事對服務員、調(diào)酒師,或其他人無禮。
There is nothing more offensive than someone who talks down to someone and treats them as if they were inferiors.
沒有什么比居高臨下同別人說話,還有對待他們似乎是自己的下級那樣更冒犯了。
小編提示:其實我們生活中很常見的一類人就是“snobbery”(擺紳士架子):ill-mannered, awful for everyone around you(無禮,并對你身邊的每個人態(tài)度惡劣)。
10. A gentleman pays.
紳士會你付錢。
Under no circumstances should she see the check or have any idea how much it is. A tight-lipped smile is your friend here, as always.
在任何情況都不能讓她看到你付了多少錢。一個抿嘴的微笑代表了你永遠都是她的友人。
小編提示:英文中有個詞叫“going Dutch” (各付各帳,AA制),這個詞其實有侮辱的意味,因為真正的紳士才不會讓女士掏腰包呢!
11. A gentleman listens.
紳士會傾聽。
Listening does not mean "waiting for your chance to talk." It means being attentive, learning to read responses, understand reactions, and navigate someone's emotional landscape.
傾聽并不代表“等待你開口訴說的機會?!边@意味著你要很留心,學著去理解回答,理解回應,并引導他人的情緒。
12. A gentleman pays attention to details.
紳士注重細節(jié)。
Take mental notes. Her likes. Her dislikes. Her shoe size. Her ring size. Her favorite color. This information will prove useful and when it does –it shows you care.
在腦中記下這些細節(jié):她喜歡什么,不喜歡什么,她的鞋碼,她最喜歡的顏色。這些信息會證明它們的用處,用處一旦顯現(xiàn)——就證明你在意她。
13. A gentleman is a jack of all trades.
紳士樣樣全能。
A gentleman knows how to do things. He is confident and socially adroit, able to handle any situation that life throws at him.
一個紳士了解如何做事。他很自信,并且交際靈活,有能力掌控任何生活中的任何突發(fā)狀況。
14. A gentleman shows initiative.
紳士展現(xiàn)出主動性。
If you're asked which dress, which pair of jeans, or which pair of shoes looks better...have an actual opinion. "They both look the same" or "whatever you like" are not actual opinions. Likewise, if you're asking someone on a date, have a destination in mind. Have a plan.
如果她問你哪條裙子,哪件牛仔褲,或是哪雙鞋更好看……真誠的給她建議?!八鼈兛瓷先]差,”或是“你喜歡就好”不是真摯的建議。同樣的,如果你要提出約會,腦中要有個目的地,一個方案。
15. He goes out of his way to let her know he cares. Every. Single. Day.
他總會用自己的方式讓她知道,他在意她。每·一·天。
Flowers. Affectionate post-it notes. Simple compliments. All of those things add up. So show your affection every day.
鮮花,深情款款的留言,簡單的贊美,所有這些疊加起來,足以證明你日日的愛戀。