Fifty Shades of Grey is being released for Valentine’s Day, so you’ll think it’s a romance. Don’t fall for it. The movie is actually about a sick, dangerous relationship filled with physical and emotional abuse. It seems glamorous, because the actors are gorgeous, they have expensive cars and private planes, and Beyonce is singing. You might conclude that Christian and Ana are cool, and that even though their relationship is different, it’s acceptable.
《五十度灰》在情人節(jié)上映，所以你會(huì)覺得很浪漫。不要相信哦。這部電影其實(shí)講的是一段病態(tài)且危險(xiǎn)的戀愛關(guān)系，其中充斥著肉體和情感的折磨。該片看似光鮮，是因?yàn)檠輪T們很美，他們擁有昂貴的汽車和飛機(jī)，而且碧昂斯傾情獻(xiàn)唱。你可能就下結(jié)論認(rèn)為，克里斯蒂安和安娜很棒；即使他們的關(guān)系是不一樣的，也是可以接受的。

As a doctor, I’m urging you: do NOT see Fifty Shades of Grey. Get informed, learn the facts, and explain to your friends why they shouldn’t see it either.
作為一名醫(yī)生，我強(qiáng)烈建議你，不要去看《五十度灰》。讓自己了解真相，向你的朋友們解釋為什么他們也不應(yīng)該去這部電影。

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1.Girls want guys like Christian who order them around and get rough.
誤區(qū)一：女生們喜歡像克里斯蒂安這樣的男生對(duì)她們發(fā)號(hào)施令，并且動(dòng)粗。

No! A psychologically healthy woman avoids pain. She wants to feel safe, respected and cared for by a man she can trust. She dreams about wedding gowns, not handcuffs.
不對(duì)！心理健康的女性會(huì)避免痛苦。在一個(gè)她信任的男人那里，她想要感到安全感，受他尊重，被他照顧。她會(huì)憧憬婚禮禮服，而不是手銬。

2.Guys want a girl like Anastasia who is meek and insecure.
誤區(qū)二：男生喜歡像安娜斯塔西婭這樣溫順，沒有安全感的女生。

Wrong. A psychologically healthy man wants a woman who can stand up for herself.? If he is out of line, he wants her to set him straight.
不對(duì)。心理健康的男人想要的是能捍衛(wèi)自己的女人。如果他做出什么出格的事情，他希望她能糾正他。

3.Anastasia exercises free choice when she consents to being hurt, so no one can judge her decision.
誤區(qū)三：安娜斯塔西婭同意被傷害時(shí)，她是自愿的，所以沒人能批評(píng)她的選擇。

Flawed logic. Sure, Anastasia had free choice – and she chose poorly. A self-destructive decision is a bad decision.
有邏輯錯(cuò)誤。確實(shí)，安娜自己是自由選擇的，但是她的決定做得很糟糕。自毀的決定是個(gè)錯(cuò)誤的決定。

4. Anastasia makes choices about Christian in a thoughtful and detached manner.
誤區(qū)四：安娜斯塔西婭對(duì)克里斯蒂安所做的選擇是深思熟慮和客觀的。

I doubt that. Christian constantly supplies Anastasia with alcohol, impairing her judgement. Also, Anastasia becomes sexually active with Christian – her first experience ever – soon after meeting him. Neuroscience suggests their intimacy could jump start her feelings of attachment and trust, before she’s certain he deserved them. Sex is a powerful, intense experience – particularly the first time. Finally, Christian manipulates Anastasia into signing a legal agreement prohibiting her from telling anyone that he is a long time abuser.
我懷疑這一點(diǎn)。克里斯蒂安不斷給安娜提供酒精，混淆她的判斷。而且安娜第一次見克里斯蒂安之后不久，就和他保持活躍的性行為。神經(jīng)科學(xué)表示他們的親密關(guān)系不應(yīng)該在她感到愛慕和信任之前就形成，她應(yīng)該先確定他是否值得。性是一個(gè)強(qiáng)烈的經(jīng)歷，特別是第一次。最后，克里斯蒂安還影響安娜，讓她簽了一份法律協(xié)議，禁止她告訴任何人他是個(gè)長(zhǎng)期虐待狂。

Alcohol, sex, manipulation – hardly the ingredients of a thoughtful, detached decision.
酒精，性，操縱，并不是深思熟慮和客觀決定的內(nèi)容。

5. Christian’s emotional problems are cured by Anastasia’s love.
誤區(qū)五：克里斯蒂安的情感問題被安娜斯塔西婭的愛所治愈。

Only in a movie. In the real world, Christian wouldn’t change to any significant degree. If Anastasia was fulfilled by helping emotionally disturbed people, she should have become a psychiatrist or social worker.
只有電影里面會(huì)。在現(xiàn)實(shí)生活中，克里斯蒂安并不會(huì)做出任何大的變化。如果安娜是因?yàn)閹椭睦硎С５娜?，而感到滿足的話，她應(yīng)該成為精神病醫(yī)生或者社工。

6. It’s good to experiment with sexuality.
誤區(qū)六：對(duì)性進(jìn)行試驗(yàn)是件好事。

Maybe for adults in a long term, healthy, committed, monogamous relationship, AKA “marriage”.? Otherwise, you’re at high risk for STDs, pregnancy, and sexual assault. It’s wise to be very careful who you allow to get close to you, physically and emotionally, because just one encounter can throw you off track and change your life forever.
可能對(duì)于長(zhǎng)期處于一段健康，忠誠(chéng)，一夫一妻的關(guān)系，也即“婚姻”中的成年人來(lái)說(shuō)是這樣的吧。否則，你就很有可能得性病，懷孕和被性侵犯。仔細(xì)決定誰(shuí)能在身體和情感兩方面和你非常親密，較為明智。因?yàn)橹灰粋€(gè)，就能讓你脫離正軌，永遠(yuǎn)改變你的生活。