I am not suggesting that any of the following ideas will totally fix your mental and emotional pain from being single on Valentine’s day. I am suggesting they will help, probably more than you think. Resolve to try a few this year:
我不是在暗示以下的想法會(huì)完全治愈你作為單身狗過情人的、精神上和情緒上傷痛。我就是在建議，它們可能會(huì)比你想的更有治愈里。今年，就試試吧：

1.Watch movies that celebrate friendship rather than romance. Examples include the Lord of the Rings trilogy, Beaches, Friends With Money, Thelma and Louise, Mystic Pizza, Fried Green Tomatoes, Steel Magnolias, Boys on the Side, How to Make an American Quilt, and the Divine Secrets of the Ya-Ya Sisterhood.
看一些歌頌”基友情”而不是“異性戀大好”的電影。舉些例子，比如像《指環(huán)王三部曲》、《情比姊妹深》、《老友有錢》、《末路狂花》、《現(xiàn)代灰姑娘》、《油炸綠番茄》、《鋼木蘭花》、《瀟灑有情天》、《戀愛編織夢》，還有《丫丫姐妹們的神圣秘密》。

2.Call an old friend just to say I love you. I love to do this when loneliness gets too much. If they answer, we always have a lovely chat. If they don’t, I leave a voicemail telling them I just called to say I love you.
打電話給一個(gè)老友，只為告訴他/她“我愛你喲~”。我喜歡在孤寂洶涌而來的時(shí)候這么做。如果他們接了電話，我們就長期擁有了一個(gè)孤單熱線。如果他們沒接，我會(huì)給他們留個(gè)語音留言，告訴他們，我打這個(gè)電話僅僅是為了說句“我愛你”。

3.Send Valentines in the mail or email to your close friends and family. You can go as fancy or simple as you like.
給你的好友和家人發(fā)送情人節(jié)短信或是郵件。你可以加入天馬行空的想象，或是僅僅放你喜歡的。

4.Plan a beautiful, fabulous dinner for yourself – love of self is an important skill! I do recommend cooking at home or ordering in, splurging on a fancy dessert or expensive ingredient.
為你自己計(jì)劃一次美好的、難以置信的晚餐——自愛是項(xiàng)很重要的技能！我十分推薦在家里自己做，或是叫餐，盡情享用精致的甜點(diǎn)，或是昂貴的配料！

5.Read famous letters between friends or books and poems that celebrate filial love. The Four Loves by C.S. Lewis examines the good and bad of different types of love from a Christian perspective.
讀一些友人之間很有名的信件，或是書和詩歌來慶?！白优畬﹂L輩的愛”。C.S.路易斯的《四種愛》從基督徒的角度審視了不同種類愛的好壞。

6.Replay failed relationships in your head, focusing on what you learned from it or why it’s a good thing they ended. In my experience, the fact that we are still single is often a good thing. Rather than romanticizing your exes, spend sometime on Valentine’s day reminding yourself why they sucked.
在你腦海中重復(fù)回放失敗的感情經(jīng)歷，專注于你從中吸取的教訓(xùn)，或是它們無疾而終的好處。從我的經(jīng)驗(yàn)來看，我們?nèi)匀粏紊恚聦?shí)上是件好事。在情人節(jié)的某一時(shí)間提醒你們自己，為何你的前任們都糟透了，而不是浪漫化你的前任們。

7.Watch a performance or plan to attend a live show.
看一場表演，或是計(jì)劃參加一場真人秀。

8.Write a list of everything and everyone you are grateful for in your life. Practicing gratitude is a simple exercise that can always help us feel better!
寫一張清單，列上你生命中你感激的所有人和事。感激心情的練習(xí)非常簡單，且能總能幫你感覺更好。

9.Schedule a professional massage. Often single people don’t get enough physical touch, skin-skin contact with another person. Regular professional massages can help offset the craving for human contact.
安排一次專業(yè)的按摩。通常單身狗們的肢體接觸和肌膚相親都太貧乏了！常規(guī)的專業(yè)按摩能夠有助于填補(bǔ)人際交往的渴望。

10.Find an opportunity to do good for others on Valentine’s day. Giving to others usually pulls us out of our own funk. Consider volunteering at a soup kitchen, homeless shelter, or other service opportunities.
找一個(gè)機(jī)會(huì)在情人節(jié)幫助別人。為他人奉獻(xiàn)常常能拉我們爬出恐懼的泥潭。想象一下在流動(dòng)廚房、流浪漢庇護(hù)所里當(dāng)志愿者，或是其他的服務(wù)機(jī)會(huì)。

I hope this post has inspired you to celebrate being single on Valentine’s day. If taking any of these steps seems overwhelming or like it won’t help at all, please consider seeking a professional counselor.
我希望這篇文章能激勵(lì)起你慶祝一個(gè)人的情人節(jié)。如果其中的任何一個(gè)建議看上去用力過猛或是毫無用處，那就請咨詢磚家吧……