孩子在學校學不到的27種必備技能
Happiness 快樂
* Be present. For some reason, this extremely important skill is never taught to us when we’re kids. In truth, the younger we are, the more natural this skill is. As we get older, we start thinking about the future and the past, and the present seems to slip away from us. Some skills for living in the present would go a long way.
著眼現(xiàn)在:基于某些原因,我們小時候從未學到這個重要的技能。事實上,我們越年輕,就越能享受現(xiàn)在。當我們慢慢長大,開始擔心將來,回顧過去,而“現(xiàn)在”則離我們而去?!盎钤诂F(xiàn)在”的技巧對我們是大有幫助的。
* Enjoy life. Kids don’t have much of a problem with this, but some awareness of its importance and how to do it, even as an adult, would be helpful. Set a good example of this, and your kids will follow.
享受生活:孩子們都在享受生活,但只有一部分意識到這個技能的重要性,并且應該如何進行。即使對于成年人,享受生活的技能依然大有益處,為你的孩子做好榜樣,他們自然會模仿你的。
* Find purpose. Whether this is a higher religious purpose, or the purpose of making your family happy, or the purpose of finding your calling, having a purpose in life is extremely important. Teach your children the importance of this and show how to do it yourself.
尋找目標:擁有一個目標對于生活而是是極為重要的,無論是崇高的宗教目標,或者是為了讓家庭幸福,又或者是你的職業(yè)目標。讓孩子認識到目標的重要性,并且如何為自己找到目標。
* Develop intimate relationships. The best way to teach this is to develop an intimate relationship with your child, and model it with your spouse or other significant other (within appropriateness). Teach them the skills for developing these types of relationships, talk about the importance of it, and how to get through the bumpy parts as well. There are bad times in every relationship, but with the right skills of communication, empathy and compromise, they can get through them.
發(fā)展親密關系:教導這個技能的最佳方式,就是和你的孩子建立親密關系,并且以你和配偶(或其他適當?shù)娜耍榉独?。教會他們發(fā)展這種關系的技能,討論它的重要性,并且學習如何克服沖突。生活中總會出現(xiàn)不和,但是通過交流、理解和妥協(xié),我們就能言歸于好。