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Martian

Mr.?Fix-it?hat


And for him to feel good about himself, he must achieve these goals alone, by himself. To offer a man unsolicited advice is to presume that he doesn't know what to do or that he can't do it on his own. Men are very touchy about this, because the issue of competence is so very important to them. However, if the man truly does need help, then it's a sign of wisdom to get it. In this case, he'll find someone he respects and then talk about his problem. Talking about a problem on Mars is an invitation for advice. Another Martian feels honored by the opportunity. Automatically, he puts on his Mr. Fix-it hat, listens for a few beats, and then offers some advice. This Martian custom is one of the reasons men instinctively offer solutions when a woman talks about her feelings or about her problems.
而男人要想自我感覺不錯，就必須是他自己獨(dú)立達(dá)到這些目標(biāo)才行。 在男人看來，不請自來的建議就是認(rèn)為他們不知道該做什么或是不能憑個人的力量獲取勝利。他們對此很惱火，因為個人能力對于他們非常重要。然而，如果男人確定需要幫助，取得幫助也是明智之舉。在這種情況下，他會和一位自己敬重的人談?wù)撟约旱睦щy。男人之間談?wù)摾щy就是請求他人提供意見。被請求的人因此會頗感榮幸，并順其自然地抒發(fā)感想，聽對方訴說，然后提出寶貴的建議。男人的這種習(xí)慣在一定程度上導(dǎo)致了他們在女人談?wù)撟约旱那楦泻屠Щ髸r，本能地提供解決方案。