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22. Cultivate a new habit.
養(yǎng)成新習(xí)慣。

Some good new habits to cultivate include reading books (#1), waking up early (#8), exercising (#9), reading a new personal development article a day (#40) and meditating. Is there any other new habit you can cultivate to improve yourself?
讀書、早起、鍛煉、每天讀篇個(gè)人成長(zhǎng)文章以及冥想都是值得培養(yǎng)的好習(xí)慣。你是否還能養(yǎng)成其他新習(xí)慣、從而提升自我呢？

23. Avoid negative people.
遠(yuǎn)離消極的人。

As Jim Rohn says, “You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with”. Wherever we go, there are bound to be negative people. Don’t spend too much of your time around them if you feel they drag you down.
正如吉米-羅恩所言：“你常交往怎樣的人，你就是怎樣的人?！笔郎细鱾€(gè)角落都有消極的人存在。當(dāng)你感到這類人在拖你后退，就趕緊遠(yuǎn)離他們吧。

24. Learn to deal with difficult people.
學(xué)會(huì)應(yīng)對(duì)刁蠻的人。

There are times when there are difficult people you can’t avoid, such as at your workplace, or when the person is part of your inner circle of contacts. Learn how to deal with them. These people management skills will go a long way in working with people in the future.
有時(shí)你確實(shí)無(wú)法回避刁蠻的人，比如在辦公室或日常交際圈中。既然如此，那就學(xué)會(huì)面對(duì)他們。這對(duì)將來(lái)與人打交道很有幫助。

25. Learn from your friends.
向朋友學(xué)習(xí)。

Everyone has amazing qualities in them. It’s up to how we want to tap into them. With all the friends who surround you, they are going to have things you can learn from. Try thinking of a good friend right now. Think about just one quality they have which you want to adopt. How can you learn from them and adopt this skill for yourself? Speak to them if you need to – for sure, they will be more than happy to help!
只要我們用心觀察，人人都有出色優(yōu)點(diǎn)。身邊朋友也有你值得學(xué)習(xí)的地方。現(xiàn)在就想想某位朋友有哪個(gè)品質(zhì)值得你學(xué)習(xí)。你將如何學(xué)習(xí)并養(yǎng)成那個(gè)品質(zhì)呢？必要時(shí)可以跟朋友講講——他們肯定樂意幫助的！

26. Start a journal.
開始寫日記。

Journaling is a great way to gain better self-awareness. It’s a self-reflection process. As you write, clarify your thought process and read what you wrote from a third person’s perspective, you gain more insights about yourself. Your journal can be private or an online blog. I use my personal development blog as a personal journal too and I’ve learned a lot about myself through the past year of blogging.
日記是提高自我認(rèn)知的好方法。寫日記是自省的過(guò)程。寫的同時(shí)也在整理思緒，而當(dāng)你從第三者角度再讀日記時(shí)，會(huì)有不一樣的感悟。日記既可以是私密的，也可以是網(wǎng)絡(luò)博客。我的個(gè)人成長(zhǎng)博客也是個(gè)人日記。過(guò)去幾年，寫博客讓我獲益匪淺。

27. Start a blog about personal development.
開設(shè)個(gè)人成長(zhǎng)博客。

To help others grow, you need to first be walking the talk. There are expectations of you, both from yourself and from others, which you have to uphold. I run The Personal Excellence Blog, where I share my personal journey and insights on how to live a better life. Readers look toward my articles to improve themselves, which enforces to me that I need to keep improving, for myself and for the people I’m reaching out to.
若想幫助他人成長(zhǎng)，你先得身體力行。因?yàn)椴粌H你自己，別人也會(huì)對(duì)你有所期待，所以你必須能夠駕馭得住。我開了個(gè)人成長(zhǎng)博客，就如何過(guò)更好的生活分享個(gè)人歷程與見解。讀者期望我的文章能幫他們提升自我，因此我必須鞭策自己不斷成長(zhǎng)，這樣才能達(dá)到自己和他人的期望。

28. Get a mentor or coach.
找個(gè)導(dǎo)師或教練。

There’s no faster way to improve than to have someone work with you on your goals. Many of my clients approach me to coach them in their goals and they achieve significantly more results than if they had worked alone.
如果有人幫助實(shí)現(xiàn)目標(biāo)，那無(wú)疑會(huì)事半功倍。我的很多客戶都希望我指導(dǎo)他們，結(jié)果實(shí)現(xiàn)的目標(biāo)遠(yuǎn)遠(yuǎn)超過(guò)了個(gè)人努力的成果。

29. Reduce the time you spend on chat programs.
減少使用聊天工具的時(shí)間。

I realized having chat programs open at default result in a lot of wasted time. This time can be much better spent on other activities. The days when I don’t get on chat, I get a lot more done. I usually disable the auto start-up option in the chat programs and launch them when I do want to chat and really have the time for it.
我發(fā)現(xiàn)掛著聊天工具太浪費(fèi)時(shí)間了。有這個(gè)時(shí)間還不如去做其他活動(dòng)。哪天我要是沒怎么聊天，必定能完成更多任務(wù)。我取消了聊天工具開機(jī)自動(dòng)啟動(dòng)的功能，只在確實(shí)需要且真正有空時(shí)才登陸使用。

30. Learn chess (or any strategy game).
學(xué)會(huì)下棋（或其他益智游戲）。

I found chess is a terrific game to learn strategy and hone your brainpower. Not only do you have fun, you also get to exercise your analytical skills. You can also learn strategy from other board games or computer games, such as Othello, Chinese Chess, WarCraft, and so on.
我覺得下棋對(duì)學(xué)習(xí)策略和磨練大腦很有幫助。下棋不僅有趣，還能訓(xùn)練分析能力。你也可以從其他棋類游戲或電腦游戲中學(xué)習(xí)策略，比如奧賽羅棋、中國(guó)象棋、魔獸爭(zhēng)霸等等。

31. Stop watching TV.
停止看電視。

I’ve not been watching TV for pretty much 4 years and it’s been a very liberating experience. I realized most of the programs and advertisements on mainstream TV are usually of a lower consciousness and not very empowering. In return, the time I’ve freed up from not watching TV is now constructively used for other purposes, such as connecting with close friends, doing work I enjoy, exercising, etc.
我已經(jīng)4年多沒看電視了，感覺真自由！我覺得主流頻道上大部分節(jié)目和廣告都不怎么需要思考。反之，把看電視的時(shí)間省下來(lái)，我可以做很多其他有意義的事情，比如聯(lián)絡(luò)朋友、做喜歡的工作、鍛煉身體等等。

32. Start a 30-day challenge.
設(shè)定30天挑戰(zhàn)。

Set a goal and give yourself 30 days to achieve this. Your goal can be to stick with a new habit or something you’ve always wanted to do but have not. 30 days is just enough time to strategize, plan, get into action, review and nail the goal.
制定一個(gè)目標(biāo)，限定30天實(shí)現(xiàn)。目標(biāo)既可以是養(yǎng)成新習(xí)慣，也可以是自己一直想做的事。30天足夠用來(lái)定方案、做計(jì)劃、具體落實(shí)、反饋并敲定一切了。

33. Meditate.
冥想。

Meditation helps to calm you and be more conscious. I also realized that during the nights when I meditate (before I sleep), I need lesser sleep. The clutter clearing process is very liberating.
冥想使人鎮(zhèn)靜清醒。我還發(fā)現(xiàn)，睡前冥想能縮短睡眠時(shí)間。整理思緒的過(guò)程使我神清氣爽。

34. Join Toastmasters (Learn public speaking).
加入Toastmaster（學(xué)習(xí)公共演講）。

Interestingly, public speaking is the #1 fear in the world, with #2 being death. After I started public speaking as a personal development speaker/trainer, I’ve learned a lot about how to communicate better, present myself and engage people. Toastmasters is an international organization that trains people in public speaking. Check out the Toastmaster clubs nearest to you here.
有趣的是，世界第一恐懼是公共演講，第二恐懼才是死亡。當(dāng)我成為個(gè)人成長(zhǎng)演講者及訓(xùn)練師并開始四處演講后，我學(xué)到了很多——關(guān)于如何更有效地溝通、展現(xiàn)自我、與人互動(dòng)。Toastmasters是訓(xùn)練公眾演講能力的國(guó)際組織。你可以參加距離最近的Toastmasters俱樂部。

35. Befriend top people in their fields.
與各行各業(yè)的優(yōu)秀人士做朋友。

These people have achieved their results because they have the right attitudes, skill sets and know-how. How better to learn than from the people who have been there and done that? Gain new insights from them on how you can improve and achieve the same results for yourself.
這些人之所以取得成就，是因?yàn)樗麄儜B(tài)度端正、方法得當(dāng)、懂得訣竅。還有什么能比跟這些已經(jīng)很優(yōu)秀的人學(xué)習(xí)更有效呢？從這些人身上學(xué)習(xí)新見解，然后努力取得同樣成就。

36. Let go of the past.
放開過(guò)去。

Is there any grievance or unhappiness from the past which you have been holding on? If so, it’s time to let it go. Holding on to them prevents you from moving on and becoming a better person. Break away from the past, forgive yourself, and move on. Just recently, I finally moved on from a past heartbreak of 5 years ago. The effect was liberating and very empowering, and I have never been happier.
你是否對(duì)過(guò)去的委屈或痛苦一直耿耿于懷？果真如此，那是時(shí)候放手了。對(duì)過(guò)去念念不忘只會(huì)阻礙你前進(jìn)與成長(zhǎng)。忘記過(guò)去、原諒自己、繼續(xù)前行。最近，我也剛從一場(chǎng)5年戀情的陰影中走出來(lái)。釋懷使我感到自由并充滿能量，我從未這樣開心過(guò)。

37. Start a business venture.
著手創(chuàng)業(yè)。

Is there anything you have an interest in? Why not turn it into a venture and make money while learning at the same time? Starting a new venture requires you to be learn business management skills, develop business acumen and have a competitive edge. The process of starting and developing my personal development business has equipped me with many skills, such as self-discipline, leadership, organization and management.
你是否有一直感興趣的事情？何不在學(xué)習(xí)的同時(shí)借此創(chuàng)業(yè)掙點(diǎn)錢？創(chuàng)業(yè)需要你掌握商務(wù)管理技能、發(fā)展商業(yè)洞察力并具備競(jìng)爭(zhēng)優(yōu)勢(shì)。我在創(chuàng)立并發(fā)展“個(gè)人成長(zhǎng)”事業(yè)時(shí)學(xué)到了很多技能，諸如自律、領(lǐng)導(dǎo)力、組織性和管理能力。

38. Show kindness to people around you.
善待身邊的人。

You can never be too kind to someone. In fact, most of us don’t show enough kindness to people around us. Being kind helps us to cultivate other qualities such as compassion, patience, and love. As you get back to your day after reading this article later on, start exuding more kindness to the people around you, and see how they react. Not only that, notice how you feel as you behave kindly to others. Chances are, you will feel even better than yourself.
對(duì)人再善良都不為過(guò)。其實(shí)，很多人對(duì)身邊的人都不夠好。善良能培養(yǎng)同情、耐心及愛心等品質(zhì)。讀完這篇文章，今天回家就開始更好地對(duì)待身邊的人，看看他們反應(yīng)如何；不僅如此，你還應(yīng)留意善待他人時(shí)自己的感受。相信你很可能會(huì)大為歡欣。

39. Reach out to the people who hate you.
與討厭你的人溝通。

If you ever stand for something, you are going to get haters. It’s easy to hate the people who hate us. It’s much more challenging to love them back. Being able to forgive, let go and show love to these people requires magnanimity and an open heart. Is there anyone who dislikes or hates you in your life? If so, reach out to them. Show them love. Seek a resolution and get closure on past grievances. Even if they refuses to reciprocate, love them all the same. It’s much more liberating than to hate them back.
如果你曾有過(guò)立場(chǎng)，那肯定會(huì)有討厭你的人。討厭我們的人，我們也很容易報(bào)以厭恨；喜歡他們絕對(duì)是難上加難。嘗試原諒并釋懷，向?qū)Ψ秸宫F(xiàn)你的肚量和寬容吧。生活中是否有人不喜歡甚至討厭你呢？若有，那就嘗試和他們溝通，向他們展示友好，想辦法消除以往的怨懟。哪怕對(duì)方拒絕回應(yīng)，你也該一如既往地友好，這總比心懷怨恨來(lái)得好。

40. Take a break.
稍作休息。

Have you been working too hard? Self-improvement is also about recognizing our need to take a break to walk the longer mile ahead. You can’t be driving a car if it has no petrol. Take some time off for yourself every week. Relax, rejuvenate and charge yourself up for what’s up ahead.
一直以來(lái)是否都在辛苦工作？自我提升也要求學(xué)會(huì)休息，這樣才能繼續(xù)漫漫征途。汽車沒油怎能開動(dòng)？每周花點(diǎn)時(shí)間放松一下，為后面的努力給自己補(bǔ)充能量。

41. Read at least 1 personal development article a day.
每天至少讀一篇個(gè)人成長(zhǎng)文章。

Some of my readers make it a point to read at least one personal development article every day, which I think is a great habit. There are many terrific personal development blogs out there, some of which you can check here.
有讀者表示，他們規(guī)定自己每天至少讀一篇個(gè)人成長(zhǎng)文章，我認(rèn)為這是很棒的習(xí)慣?，F(xiàn)在有關(guān)個(gè)人成長(zhǎng)的博客非常多，不妨搜索一下。

42. Commit to your personal growth.
全心投入個(gè)人成長(zhǎng)。

I can be writing list articles with 10 ways, 25 ways, 42 ways or even 1,000 ways to improve yourself, but if you’ve no intention to commit to your personal growth, it doesn’t matter what I write. Nothing is going to get through. We are responsible for our personal growth – not anyone else. Make the decision to commit to your personal growth and embrace yourself to a life-long journey of growth and change. Kick off your growth by picking a few of the steps above and working on them. The results may not be immediate, but I promise you that as long as you keep to it, you’ll start seeing positive changes in yourself and your life.
有關(guān)個(gè)人成長(zhǎng)，我可以列出十到上千種方法，但如果你不專心付諸努力，我寫什么都無(wú)濟(jì)于事，一切也都毫無(wú)意義。我們得為自己的個(gè)人成長(zhǎng)負(fù)責(zé)——這無(wú)關(guān)其他任何人。請(qǐng)下定決心全力投入個(gè)人成長(zhǎng)，準(zhǔn)備用一輩子來(lái)改變和成長(zhǎng)吧。先嘗試前面提到的建議，盡力做好。效果不可能一下子就能看到，但我保證，只要你足夠堅(jiān)持，肯定能看到自己和生活變得越來(lái)越好！