生活一成不變?6種方式給生活打點(diǎn)雞血!
作者:temnine 譯
來源:lifehack
2013-03-08 22:38
Do you sometimes feel like you are in a rut and you can’t get out? We all do from time to time.
你是不是常常覺得自己陷在了困境中無法脫身?我們所有人時(shí)不時(shí)地都會(huì)遭遇這樣的情況。
When I was younger, I remember lying in my bed most evenings before I fell asleep, and all I could think about was everything that was going wrong in my life, and played a video of all the things I wasn’t happy with over and over in my mind. I would think about all the things that I wasn’t achieving and wished that something would happen one day to make everything better, a miracle.
當(dāng)我年輕時(shí),我記得有很多晚在入睡前我都躺在床上,想的都是生活中進(jìn)展不順的事,在我腦子里像放電影一樣一遍遍地重復(fù)著那些我不開心的事。我會(huì)想那些我沒達(dá)成的事,希望有一天能發(fā)生奇跡,使一切都變好。
When things aren’t going as well as you want them to, perhaps you aren’t getting the results you want or you feel like you are in a dip, it’s difficult to see how things are really going to turn out the way you want them to.
當(dāng)事情沒有朝著你想的那樣發(fā)展時(shí),也許你就得不到想要的結(jié)果,或者你感覺自己裹足不前,很難看出事情到底會(huì)怎么樣發(fā)展。
Sometimes when we are so caught up in our “problems”, we are unable to see any solution ahead or we keep trying to fix everything on the outside, when in fact, it is the inside that needs a little tweaking as well. Sometimes the smallest changes have the most influential impact and can change your life forever.
有時(shí)當(dāng)我們?nèi)绱松钕菰谖覀冏约旱膯栴}中時(shí),我們就找不到任何出路,或者我們不停地嘗試著解決外界的所有問題,而實(shí)際上,內(nèi)心也是需要一點(diǎn)點(diǎn)調(diào)整的。有時(shí)很細(xì)小的一點(diǎn)改變都能產(chǎn)生非常重大的影響,進(jìn)而永遠(yuǎn)改變了我們的生活。
1. Change your focus
改變你的關(guān)注點(diǎn)
Why? Because what you focus on, you create more of. The worst thing to do when something bad happens is to keep thinking about how unfair, how crazy, or how unbelievable it was.?
為什么?因?yàn)槟阍綄W?,你?chuàng)造的就越多。當(dāng)事情出了差錯(cuò),最糟的一件事是對此念念不忘,想著它是怎么不公、瘋狂以及難以置信。
The fact is that we can’t change what happens, but we have a choice in how we respond and deal with what happened. If you only focus on what isn’t going right, how will you be able to see what can go right?
我們改變不了已經(jīng)發(fā)生的事,但我們可以選擇如何回應(yīng)以及如何處理已經(jīng)發(fā)生的事。如果你一心想著事情不會(huì)順利進(jìn)展,那你怎么能看到它順利進(jìn)展的一面?
Start to focus on what you want, not on what you don’t want; start to focus on what you can do and not what you can’t do. Focus on what is going well and not on what isn’t going well.
去關(guān)注你想要的,而不是你不想要的;去關(guān)注你能做到的,而不是你做不到的。關(guān)注那些進(jìn)展順利的,而不是那些進(jìn)展不順利的。
2. Question every thought
質(zhì)疑每個(gè)想法
Your thinking is shaped by your beliefs about the world, your paradigms, and beliefs, and how you see the world is different to everybody else. Your experiences as a child, your parents, friends and family influenced your views and the way you perceive the world—basically, how you think.
你的世界觀、閱歷、信念形成了你的想法,你怎么看這個(gè)世界和其他人怎么看這個(gè)世界是不一樣的。來自小時(shí)候、你的父母、朋友和家庭的各種經(jīng)歷影響了你的觀念和你感知世界的方式——通俗的說,就是你怎么想。
Unfortunately, the beliefs you formed might not all have been good for you, but may hold you back instead.
遺憾的是,你所形成的信念也許對你來說并不都是好的,反而有可能拖你后腿。
If you want to change your results, start by looking at the related supporting belief. Your beliefs give you thoughts, which give you feelings. Then you act on your feelings, and this gives you your behavior, which in turn leads to your results. Question your thoughts and identify the limiting ones.
如果你想要改變結(jié)果,首先審視一下與之有關(guān)的信念。你的信念給了你想法,想法產(chǎn)生感覺。然后你跟著感覺做事,這樣就有了你的行為,行為反過來造就了你的結(jié)果。質(zhì)疑你的想法,辨別出那些限制性的想法。
If you don’t think something is possible, it isn’t. If you don’t think it will work out, it won’t. Take control of your thoughts or they will control you.
如果你認(rèn)為有些事不可能發(fā)生,那么它就不會(huì)發(fā)生。如果你認(rèn)為它解決不了,那么它就解決不了。控制你的想法,不然想法就會(huì)控制你。
3. Aim to change or re-develop a bad habit
決心改變一種壞習(xí)慣
We all have some bad habits that are obviously not helping us very much. Habits can be the most challenging to overcome. but it is definitely worth the time and effort put in to try. Habits are formed from repetition, and the best way to undo a habit is to replace it with a better habit, also through repetition.
我們都有一些壞習(xí)慣,它們明顯幫不到我們什么忙。習(xí)慣也許是最難克服的一種挑戰(zhàn)了,但它確實(shí)值得花時(shí)間和努力去嘗試。習(xí)慣因重復(fù)而形成,所以克服一種習(xí)慣的最好方式就是用一種好習(xí)慣來代替它,同樣也是通過重復(fù)。
Which habits are undermining your results? What new habit could you develop to transform your results? Choose one habit to change and start with that, even if it’s just checking your email every 2 hours instead of 10 minutes—your results will change!
哪些習(xí)慣在破壞你的成果?你可以培養(yǎng)哪些新習(xí)慣來改變你的結(jié)果?選一種要改變的習(xí)慣,然后以它開始,即使僅僅是每兩小時(shí)查閱郵箱而不是每10分鐘——你的結(jié)果將會(huì)發(fā)生改變!
4. Take Responsibility
承擔(dān)責(zé)任
If you want to change your results, you need to accept responsibility for them. It’s not empowering to feel like a victim and to blame others for the results you have. You can either be on the “cause” or the “effect” side of the equation; which side do you choose to be on?
如果你想要改變結(jié)果,你需要承擔(dān)為實(shí)現(xiàn)它們而負(fù)有的責(zé)任。讓自己像受害者一樣為現(xiàn)有的結(jié)果去責(zé)備他人并不會(huì)讓我們有更多動(dòng)力。在等式里,你要么選“原因”,要么選“結(jié)果”;你要選擇哪一邊?
You have control over the results in your life, and you have influence, if you want. It is up to you to decide to take hold of the reins again and take responsibility for the things that you are not happy with. If you take responsibility for your results, your results will change.
如果你想,你可以掌握生活中的結(jié)果,你還有影響力??刂魄楦小槟悴婚_心的事承擔(dān)責(zé)任,這些都取決于你。如果你為結(jié)果承擔(dān)責(zé)任,結(jié)果會(huì)有所不同。
5. That one skill!
一技之長
What is one skill that, if you excelled at it, would change your life forever? Sometimes, the thing that keeps holding us back is a constant; something we feel that we are generally lacking in. Is it public speaking, communication, time management or positive thinking?
如果你很擅長,那會(huì)是哪一項(xiàng)技能會(huì)永遠(yuǎn)改變你的生活?有時(shí),阻礙我們前進(jìn)的都是同樣的問題;那就是我們感覺我們?nèi)鄙倌且豁?xiàng)技能:是公共演講、交流、時(shí)間管理還是積極思考?
Imagine how different your results would be if you could master the one skill that keeps holding you back? Here are some great ideas.
如果你掌握了那項(xiàng)拖你后腿的技能,你想象一下你會(huì)有怎樣不同的結(jié)果?這里一些好的主意。
6. Make a 30-day plan
制訂一份30天計(jì)劃
Another great way to change your results quickly is by using the 30-day plan. The idea is to think about what you want to achieve/change in the next 30 days only, so it is not so overwhelming and easier to start.
另一個(gè)很快改變結(jié)果的好方法是使用30天計(jì)劃表。想一想你想要在30天內(nèi)實(shí)現(xiàn)或改變什么,它不會(huì)太有難度,而且還容易開始。
You can do this in 3 easy steps.
遵循3個(gè)簡單步驟,你就能做到。
(1) Think about what you want to accomplish in 30 days. How many new clients do you want? How much weight do you want to lose? Etc; Write down your 30 day goals. Make sure they are specific, measurable, and attainable, but still challenging and exciting!
想一想你要在30天內(nèi)達(dá)成的事。你想要多少新客戶?你想要減掉多少斤?等等。寫下你要在30天內(nèi)實(shí)現(xiàn)的目標(biāo)。目標(biāo)一定要是具體的、可測量的和可達(dá)成的,但也要有挑戰(zhàn)性和振奮性。
(2) Think about what you need to do to accomplish each goal. Write down all the action steps you are going to need to do, break them into weekly and daily tasks and put them in your calendar.
想一想為了實(shí)現(xiàn)目標(biāo)你需要做些什么事。寫下所有你需要去做的行動(dòng)步驟,把它們分解到周任務(wù)和每日任務(wù)里去,并把它們寫進(jìn)你的日程表里。
(3) Think about your obstacles—what could happen that would prevent you from achieving this goal. Be prepared for the moments you normally hesitate and make a plan to overcome your obstacle.
想一想你遇到的困難——比如會(huì)發(fā)生哪些阻礙你完成目標(biāo)的事。為猶豫不決的事情做好準(zhǔn)備,制訂一份戰(zhàn)勝困難的計(jì)劃。