risk
As long as the world is turning, you’re going to be dizzy and you’re going to make mistakes. And that’s okay. Your past mistakes can teach you what you need to know to create a wonderful future.
只要世界照常運(yùn)轉(zhuǎn),你就有暈暈乎乎的時(shí)候,就會(huì)犯錯(cuò)。沒關(guān)系,過去的錯(cuò)誤會(huì)教你如何創(chuàng)造美好的未來。
Here are twelve big mistakes you (likely) made this year and what you need to know going forward.
下面是你今年可能犯的12大錯(cuò)誤,還有你需要了解的接下來該怎么做:
1. You didn’t accept enough risk.
沒有接受足夠的風(fēng)險(xiǎn)。
Living is risky business. Every decision, every
interaction, every step, every time you get out of bed in the morning, you take a risk. To truly live is to know you’re getting up and taking that risk. To not get out of bed, clutching to illusions of safety, is to die slowly without ever having truly lived. Be a little risky and realize the full potential of your life.
活著是需要冒險(xiǎn)的。你做出的每個(gè)決定、每次互動(dòng)、每個(gè)步驟、你每天早晨起床的時(shí)候,都在冒險(xiǎn)。要想真正的生活,就要迎面面對(duì)風(fēng)險(xiǎn)。不想起床,緊緊抓住那幻想中的安全,這樣會(huì)慢慢死去而不會(huì)體驗(yàn)到真正的生活。冒點(diǎn)兒險(xiǎn),充分發(fā)揮生活的潛力。
reality
2. You gave in to your fears and negativity.
在恐懼和負(fù)面情緒前卻步。
The reality is we all get afraid. It’s not about being afraid but what you do when you feel that way. When you feel doubt, or fear, or anger, or frustration, know that you can let it go just as surely as you can pull your hand away from a flame. Keep your life focused on the goodness, on the possibilities and on your most treasured dreams. What begins in your mind ends up in your life. Think continually of the way you would like to be, let these thoughts drive your actions, and your reality will reliably catch up to your thinking.
現(xiàn)實(shí)是我們都會(huì)害怕。害怕沒關(guān)系,重要的是當(dāng)你害怕時(shí)你會(huì)做什么。當(dāng)你覺得懷疑、害怕、憤怒或沮喪時(shí), 告訴自己你可以把這些情緒釋放掉,就像你可以把手從火焰邊抽回一樣。多關(guān)注生活中美好的事物、機(jī)遇以及最珍視的夢(mèng)想。有所想才會(huì)有所得。經(jīng)常想一下你想變成什么樣子, 讓思想驅(qū)動(dòng)行為,現(xiàn)實(shí)會(huì)跟上你的想法。
uncertainty
3. You let uncertainty paralyze you.
不確定性將你擊潰。
As time goes on, you’ll understand: what lasts, lasts; what doesn’t, doesn’t. Time solves most things, and what time can’t solve, you’ll learn to solve yourself. Sometimes you’ll not be able to see where you are going in life, clearly. But know that your soul’s inner GPS will guide you home. You will find that you will be the right person, at the right place, at the right time, doing the right thing on point. Trust your intuition. Relax. You know what to do.
隨著時(shí)間的流逝,你會(huì)明白:命里有時(shí)終須有,命里無時(shí)莫強(qiáng)求。時(shí)間會(huì)解決大部分問題,剩下的時(shí)間解決不了,你要學(xué)著自己去解決。有時(shí)你無法看清生活的方向,但是你靈魂深處的導(dǎo)航會(huì)指引你回家。你會(huì)發(fā)現(xiàn)你就是那個(gè)對(duì)的人,在正確的時(shí)間、正確的地點(diǎn)做正確的事情。相信自己的直覺。放松。你會(huì)知道該做什么。
yourself
4. You did what everyone else wanted you to do.
你做了別人想讓你做的事。
Life is too short to spend all your time trying to make everyone else happy. Besides, it’s impossible to please everyone all the time. Make choices that take your mind, body, and soul into consideration. You are the only person who knows what’s best for you. It’s impossible for anyone else to know. No matter how much you share with them, they are not connected to your deepest desires, intuition, or hopes and dreams. Always, ALWAYS listen to yourself and what you want first.
人生苦短,不要把你的時(shí)間都用來取悅別人。另外,你也不可能一直讓所有人都高興。做決定時(shí)想想自己的思想、身體和靈魂。只有你自己才知道如何做對(duì)你來說是最好的。別人不可能知道。無論你和他們分享了多少,他們都不可能觸及到你最深處的愿望、直覺、希望和夢(mèng)想。一定要聽從自己的內(nèi)心,想想自己想要什么。
busy
5. You were far busier than you were productive.
工作忙碌但效率低。
All work is not created equal. Try working with mindful awareness of the type of work you’re doing and how it’s helping (or limiting) your progress. Focus on the reason for doing what you’re doing, the deepest reason you can find within yourself. This steady self-awareness will keep you focused as long as necessary on the right activities that bring you closer to your goals.
工作并不是平等的。工作時(shí)要意識(shí)到你的工作類型,以及它是在幫助(還是阻礙)你的進(jìn)步。關(guān)注自己為何工作,在自己身上找到最深切的原因。這種自我意識(shí)能夠讓你集中在正確的活動(dòng)中,能讓你離目標(biāo)更近。
practice
6. You didn’t practice enough.
你還練得不夠。
If I were to write a book entitled, “How to Be Amazing at Anything”, it would only contain a single page with one word on it: “Practice!” Because that’s all it takes to be amazing. Whether it means learning to write by practicing writing or learning to live by practicing living, the principles are identical. In each instance, it is the relentless routine of a precise set of actions, physical and intellectual, focused on a desired result. Practice means to perform, over and over again in the face of all obstacles, some act of vision, faith, or desire. Practice is a means of inventing an amazing outcome.
如果我要寫一本書,取名為《如何精通萬物》,那么書里面會(huì)只有一頁,這一頁上只有一個(gè)詞:“練習(xí)!”只有它才會(huì)讓你出色。無論你是想通過練習(xí)寫作來學(xué)會(huì)寫作,或是通過練習(xí)生活來學(xué)會(huì)生活,原則都是一樣的。在每種情況下,都是堅(jiān)持不懈地進(jìn)行一系列例行活動(dòng),身體行動(dòng)或是心理活動(dòng),并把注意力集中在想要的結(jié)果上。練習(xí)意味著在面對(duì)各種各樣的困難下,反復(fù)進(jìn)行一些和理想、信仰或愿望相關(guān)的行為。練習(xí)是一種手段,它能讓結(jié)果令人驚嘆。
stress
7. You let little bits of stress consume you.
壓力一點(diǎn)點(diǎn)地消耗著你。
Don’t get stuck on the one thing that ruins your day. Don’t waste your time on one unhappy thought. If one window of happiness closes, run to the next window, or break through a wall. A dose of stress is a great entry point for you to pick up your head and say, “I’m only going to go through this once. I’ve got to figure out how to live my life in a positive and joyful way.” You must learn to let it go.
不要太過拘泥于一件事上,讓它把你的一天都?xì)У袅?。不要把時(shí)間浪費(fèi)在不開心的思想上。如果通往快樂的一扇窗戶關(guān)閉了,跑到下一扇窗前,或打破一堵墻。面對(duì)壓力,你應(yīng)該抬起頭來說:“我只想經(jīng)歷這一次。我得想出來如何積極快樂的生活?!?你必須學(xué)會(huì)放手。
dignity
8. You let the same people drain you over and over again.
讓同樣的人一次又一次地榨干你。
People inspire you, or they drain you; choose them wisely. Don’t lose your dignity and self-respect trying to make someone accept, love and appreciate you when they have proven that they are incapable of doing so. If someone or something in life is meant for you, you will still have to work for it, but you won’t have to beg for it. You will never have to
sacrifice your dignity for your destiny.
有的人能激勵(lì)你,有的人能榨干你;要聰明地進(jìn)行選擇。在想讓他人接受、愛或欣賞你時(shí),不要丟掉自己的自尊、自敬,因?yàn)橛行┤藷o論你怎么做,他們都不會(huì)改變對(duì)你的態(tài)度。如果有些人或有些事對(duì)你來說很重要,你仍要去爭(zhēng)取,但是不能去乞求。永遠(yuǎn)也不要犧牲自己的尊嚴(yán)來換取命運(yùn)。
expectation
9. You set unrealistic expectations.
你設(shè)立了不現(xiàn)實(shí)的期望。
There are always two ways to be happier: improve your reality, or lower your expectations. We’re wired to expect the world to be brighter and more meaningful and more obviously interesting than it actually is. And when we realize that it isn’t, we start looking around for the real world. But this is the real world, and it’s actually a beautiful place to be. We are our own worst enemies for expecting otherwise. If you can learn to stop expecting impossible perfection, in yourself, others and the world around you, you may find the happiness that has always
eluded you.
總有兩種方法會(huì)讓你更加開心:改善現(xiàn)實(shí)或降低希望。我們天生就希望世界會(huì)更明亮、更有意義,比現(xiàn)實(shí)更有趣。當(dāng)我們意識(shí)到現(xiàn)實(shí)并不像期望的那么好時(shí),我們開始四處尋找真實(shí)的世界。但是實(shí)際上我們現(xiàn)實(shí)的世界是非常美麗的地方。在期待時(shí),我們是自己最大的敵人。如果你能學(xué)會(huì)停止期望你自己、他人、身邊的世界上出現(xiàn)那不可能的完美,你會(huì)發(fā)現(xiàn)快樂總是環(huán)繞在你周圍。
moment
10. You overlooked the beauty of small moments.
你忽略了生活中美麗的小瞬間。
Whatever you’re waiting for – peace of mind, contentment, grace, an inner awareness of abundance – it will surely come to you, but only when you’re ready to receive it with an open and grateful heart. So be as grateful as possible, for small things, not just for big things… for the simple act of breathing, the time together, the conversations, etc. Every moment counts. Every second matters. Whatever is given is a gift.
無論你在期待什么,平靜的心情、滿足感、優(yōu)雅、豐富的內(nèi)在,這些都會(huì)來的,但是只會(huì)當(dāng)你準(zhǔn)備好以開放和感激的心情接受時(shí)才會(huì)到來。所以盡可能的心存感激吧,為生活中的小事,而不僅僅是因?yàn)榇笫隆瓰橄窈粑?、在一起度過時(shí)光、談話等這樣簡(jiǎn)單的行為而心存感激吧。每個(gè)時(shí)刻、每一秒都很重要。你所收到的都是禮物。
focus
11. You didn’t focus enough energy inward.
你沒有足夠關(guān)注內(nèi)心的能量。
Even when you’re with others, you’re still with yourself. When you wake up in the morning, you’re with yourself, laying in bed at night you’re with yourself, walking down the street at noon you’re with yourself. What kind of person do you want to walk down the street with? What kind of person do you want to wake up in the morning with? What kind of person do you want to see at the end of the day before you fall asleep? It’s your responsibility to be the person you want to be with.
即使和他人在一起,你仍然和你自己在一起。當(dāng)你在早晨起床時(shí),你和自己在一起,當(dāng)晚上你躺著床上時(shí),你和自己在一起,當(dāng)你中午在街上走路時(shí),你和自己在一起。當(dāng)你走在大街上,你想和什么樣的人在一起?當(dāng)你起床時(shí),你想和什么樣的人在一起?在你入睡前,你想和什么樣的人在一起?成為你想成為的人,是你自己的責(zé)任。
mistake
12. You were hoping to make fewer mistakes.
你希望少犯些錯(cuò)誤。
You aren’t really free until you give yourself the freedom to make mistakes. Liberate yourself! Try new things, learn and explore freely. Your good judgment comes from life experience, and life experience comes from your bad judgments of the past. You need to have sufficient courage to make mistakes. Disappointment and defeat are the tools life uses to show you the way.
直到你能允許自己犯錯(cuò)時(shí),你才能得到真正的自由。解放自己!嘗試新的事物,自由地學(xué)習(xí)和探索。良好的判斷來自于經(jīng)驗(yàn),而生活經(jīng)驗(yàn)來自于過去你所做的錯(cuò)誤判斷。你需要有足夠的勇氣去犯錯(cuò)。失望和失敗是生活用來磨礪你的工具。
And remember, all your mistakes from this past year are now just lessons learned. Appreciate what you’ve learned, absorb the energy and possibility of today, and look forward to the year ahead.
記住,過去的一年你所犯過的錯(cuò)誤現(xiàn)在對(duì)你來說是學(xué)到的教訓(xùn)。欣賞你所學(xué)到的,吸收今天的能量和潛力,期待著新一年的到來吧。