One of the hardest challenges we face in life is to simply live in our own skin – to just be right here, right now, regardless of where we are. Here are eight reasons so many of us miss out on life as it’s happening.
生活中最困難的一件事便是活在當(dāng)下——不論處境如何，只活在此時此刻。以下便是很多人浪費生命的八大方式。

1. The fear of missing out.
總擔(dān)心錯過什么

If you feel anxious because you constantly feel like you’re missing out on something happening somewhere else, you’re not alone. We all feel this way sometimes. But let me assure you, you could run around trying to do everything, and travel around the world, and always stay connected, and work and party all night long without sleep, but you could never do it all. You will always be missing something.
總是焦灼憂慮、覺得自己錯過了別處正在發(fā)生的某些事情么？那你可不是唯一有這種感覺的人。有時候人們都會這么想。但是我敢保證，就算你設(shè)法四處奔波忙碌、周游世界、與人聯(lián)絡(luò)、沒日沒夜地上班或聚會，事情也還是沒完，你還是會覺得生活中少了什么。

So let it go, and realize you have everything right now. The best in life isn’t somewhere else; it’s right where you are, at this moment. Celebrate the perhaps not altogether insignificant fact that you are alive right now. This moment, and who you are, is absolutely perfect. Take a deep breath, smile, and notice how lovely it is.
所以還是放手吧，想想自己已經(jīng)擁有的。最好的生活不是生活在別處，而就是你此時此刻所經(jīng)歷的。撇開所有無足輕重的一切，為自己當(dāng)下還活著而慶幸吧。此刻的你才是最好的。深呼吸，微笑，想想一切多么美好吧。

2. Avoiding pain and defeat.
逃避痛苦和挫折

Not to spoil the ending for you, but everything is going to be OK – you just need to learn a lesson or two first. Don’t run from the realities of the present moment. The pain and defeat contained within is necessary to your long-term growth. Remember, there is a difference between encountering defeats and being defeated. Nothing ever goes away until it teaches you what you need to know, so you can move on to the next step.
這么說并非是詛咒你失敗，但一切總歸會好起來吧——你只是先要吸取一兩次教訓(xùn)罷了。請不要逃避此刻的現(xiàn)實，內(nèi)心的痛苦和失落對你日后的長遠(yuǎn)發(fā)展也有必要。請記?。涸庥龃煺叟c被打敗之間是有區(qū)別的。生活總是先教導(dǎo)你讓你明白事理，然后才讓你繼續(xù)前行。

3. Holding on to what’s no longer there.
對過去的一切耿耿于懷

Some of us spend the vast majority of our lives recounting past memories, and letting them steer the course of the present. Don’t waste your time trying to live in another time and place. Let the past, go. You must accept the end of something in order to begin to build something new. So close some old doors today. Not because of pride, inability or egotism, but simply because you’ve entered each one of them in the past and realize that they lead to nowhere.
很多人會浪費大把時間追憶過去，讓回憶占據(jù)當(dāng)下生活。請別浪費時間試圖活在另一段時光或另一個地方。過去的就讓它過去吧。你必須接受已然發(fā)生的結(jié)局，開始新的生活。因此，現(xiàn)在就請塵封回憶之門——不是因為驕傲、無能或自尊，而是因為過去你已經(jīng)一個一個開啟過它們，已經(jīng)知道它們指引不了什么了。

4. Retelling a self-defeating story.
重復(fù)挫敗自己的故事

If we continue to repeat a story in our head, we eventually believe that story and embrace it – whether it empowers us or not. So the question is: Does your story empower you? Don’t place your mistakes on your mind, their weight may crush your current potential. Instead, place them under your feet and use them as a platform to view the horizon. Remember, all things are difficult before they are easy. What matters the most is what you start doing now.
如果我們在腦中反復(fù)講述一個故事，最后我們就會信以為真并予以接受——不論這故事對我們是否有利。問題是：故事對你有利嗎？請別對自己的錯誤銘記不忘，因為它們會扼殺你現(xiàn)在的潛能。相反你應(yīng)該把它們踩在腳下，讓它們成為你開闊視野的墊腳石。請記?。喝f事總是開頭難。你現(xiàn)在所做的事情才是最重要的。

5. Attempting to fit in by becoming someone else.
為合群入流而迷失自我

The hardest battle you’re ever going to fight is the battle to be you, just the way you are in this moment. We cannot find ourselves if we are always searching for, or morphing into, someone else. In this crazy world that’s trying to make you like everyone else, find the courage to keep being your awesome self. Be your own kind of beautiful right now, in the way only you know how.
最困難的挑戰(zhàn)便是成為自己、此時此刻的自己。如果我們總是不停追尋他人、模仿他人，那就會迷失自己。在這個瘋狂的世界，這么做無異于試圖把自己變成別人的模樣，然后還得拿出勇氣面對真實的自我。請現(xiàn)在就開始做個獨特美好的自己吧。

6. The picture in your head of how it’s supposed to be.
腦中的愿景

What often screws us up the most in life is the picture in our head of how it’s supposed to be. Although every good thing has an end, in life every ending is just a new beginning. Life goes on – not always the way we had envisioned it would be, but always the way it’s supposed to be. Remember, we usually can’t choose the music life plays for us, but we can choose how we dance to it.
我們的生活往往是被我們腦中的愿景攪擾的。雖然好事終有結(jié)束之時，但在生活中，每一次結(jié)束都是新的開始。生活并不總是如我們所愿地前進(jìn)，它自有其法。請記?。何覀儫o法選擇生活奏響的樂曲，但卻可以選擇如何舞蹈。

7.?Berating?yourself for not being perfect.
苛責(zé)自己未能至善至美

Don’t be too hard on yourself. There are plenty of people willing to do that for you. Do your best and surrender the rest. Tell yourself, “I am doing the best I can with what I have in this moment. And that is all I can expect of anyone, including me.” Love yourself and be proud of everything that you do, even your mistakes. Because even mistakes mean you’re trying.
別太苛責(zé)自己。其實有很多人愿意幫你。你只需盡力做好，其他就聽天由命吧。請告訴自己：“我已經(jīng)在現(xiàn)有能力內(nèi)做到最好，這是我對所有人的全部期望——包括我自己。”請善待自己、為自己所做的一切感到自豪吧。即便是錯誤，也表示你曾盡力了。

8. Waiting, and then waiting some more.
一等再等

Stop waiting for tomorrow; you will never get today back. It doesn’t matter what you’ve done in the past. It doesn’t matter how low or unworthy you feel right now. The simple fact that you’re alive makes you worthy. Life is too short for excuses. Stop settling. Stop procrastinating. Start today by taking one courageous step forward. If you are not sure exactly which way to go, it is always wise to follow your heart.
別再等待明天了，否則你連今天都把握不住。你過去的一切都不再重要。你此刻的卑微和無價值感也不重要。事實是當(dāng)下你還活著，這就足以證明你有價值。生命太短，何能噓嗟！請別再擱淺。請別再拖延?，F(xiàn)在就勇敢向前邁進(jìn)吧。如果你還不確定該往哪個方向出發(fā)，遵從內(nèi)心意愿就很不錯哦！ ?