I'm now a little more than two years out of college. When I graduated, I was new to town, living alone in a small apartment and about to start grad school. Today, I'm a grad school dropout, living with my boyfriend in a slightly larger apartment, and on my second job.
我現(xiàn)在已經(jīng)大學(xué)畢業(yè)兩年多了。我剛畢業(yè)時(shí)，對這個(gè)城市很陌生，獨(dú)自住在一間小公寓內(nèi)，準(zhǔn)備開始讀研。如今我放棄了讀研，和男朋友一起住在一個(gè)稍大點(diǎn)兒的公寓，從事我的第二份工作。

Let's just say that life after college should have a subtitle—trial by fire, I'd call it—and that you learn a lot. These seven tips will help you keep it all in perspective.
我覺得大學(xué)畢業(yè)后的生活應(yīng)該還有一個(gè)副標(biāo)題——我想稱之為“壓力考驗(yàn)”，你會(huì)從中學(xué)到很多。以下的7條建議會(huì)幫助你正確地判斷各種事情的重要性。

1. Keep in touch with your friends.
與朋友保持聯(lián)絡(luò)。

The people you spent four or so years with? They're the best friends you'll ever have—trust me on this. Send cards for birthdays, set up Skype dates, and travel to see one another. It's hard making friends without the wonderful, semi-artificial environment of college, and having a support network is one of the most important things when you're stepping out on your own.
與你共度大學(xué)四年時(shí)光的人是你所擁有的最好的朋友，這一點(diǎn)你得相信我。我們可以互相寄送生日卡片，約好時(shí)間用網(wǎng)絡(luò)電話溝通交流，旅行去看望彼此。離開了大學(xué)那種令人愉快的半人工環(huán)境，我們不容易交上朋友，而擁有社會(huì)支持網(wǎng)絡(luò)是你獨(dú)自邁出校園時(shí)最重要的事情之一。

2. But make an effort to meet new people.
努力結(jié)識(shí)新朋友。

Most of us recent grads don't live in the same cities as our friends. Go to networking events, go to meetings. (I met one of my friends when we were leaving a Junior League interest meeting, even though neither of us ended up joining.) Become accustomed to carrying on real conversation with new acquaintances—it'll help you both socially and professionally.
大多數(shù)像我們這樣剛畢業(yè)的大學(xué)生，不與朋友居住在同一座城市。那就去參加社交活動(dòng)，去聚會(huì)吧。（我跟一個(gè)朋友是在離開少年聯(lián)盟興趣交流會(huì)上認(rèn)識(shí)的，盡管我們最終都沒有加入那個(gè)聯(lián)盟。）習(xí)慣于與新結(jié)識(shí)的人進(jìn)行有效的談話，會(huì)在社交領(lǐng)域和專業(yè)領(lǐng)域?qū)δ阌兴鶐椭?/div>

3. Don't let weddings get to you.
不要讓婚禮影響你的情緒。

It's tough. Weddings bring up a lot of questions about our own love lives; whether you're single and looking, in a relationship and waiting for the proposal, or just disgruntled over weddings, there's no avoiding weddings or marriage. Get used to it now, because soon you'll be attending a lot of these gatherings. Be happy for your friends, and either learn to be content with your own situation or do something about it!
這個(gè)問題很難辦?；槎Y會(huì)給我們自己的戀愛生活帶來很多問題；不論你是單身仍在尋覓，還是正在戀愛等待求婚，或者正因婚禮的事兒而有所不滿，我們總避免不了婚禮或是談婚論嫁這個(gè)話題。適應(yīng)它吧，因?yàn)椴痪媚憔蜁?huì)參加許許多多這樣的場合。為你的朋友而高興吧，要么學(xué)會(huì)滿足于自己的現(xiàn)狀，要么就為了結(jié)婚做點(diǎn)什么吧！

4. Learn how to manage your finances.
學(xué)會(huì)管理財(cái)務(wù)。

If you're clueless about basic budgets, start educating yourself. The one thing missing from most college educations is personal finance, but this is the probably the single most important thing you need to survive.
如果你對基本的預(yù)算一無所知，那么開始自我學(xué)習(xí)吧。大多數(shù)大學(xué)教育所遺漏的一點(diǎn)就是個(gè)人財(cái)務(wù)知識(shí)，但這大概也是你為了生存所需的最重要的東西。

5. Buy a real wardrobe.
購買正牌行頭。

If you've played your cards right and allocated money in your budget just for shopping, start saving for classic, timeless items. One $300 wool coat in a neutral color with good stitching and construction might give you some sticker shock, but it's a far more savvy purchase than five $60 cheaply-made coats of synthetic materials.
如果你一直處理得當(dāng)，并在預(yù)算中只留出購物的錢，那么你要開始存錢買些經(jīng)典、不過時(shí)的衣服了?；蛟S你在看到一件售價(jià)300美元、色彩素凈、款式剪裁精致的羊毛大衣時(shí)有點(diǎn)震驚，但是這比購買5件售價(jià)60美元、用合成材料制成的廉價(jià)外套要理性得多。

6. Find something else to do with your time.
花時(shí)間找點(diǎn)其他的事情做。

Work may give you the resources you need to clothe and feed yourself, but let's face it—it's unlikely to fulfill you in every way. What should you do instead? Join an organization or a young professionals club, volunteer your time, or find a pet project that sparks your creativity. When you have outside interests, you'll achieve a better balance.
工作可以給你所需的財(cái)力滿足自己的衣食，但是讓我們正視這個(gè)問題——工作不可能在每個(gè)方面都能滿足你。那么你應(yīng)該做些什么呢？加入某個(gè)組織或是某個(gè)聚集了年輕才俊的俱樂部吧，自愿貢獻(xiàn)自己的時(shí)間，或者尋找一個(gè)寵物活動(dòng)來激發(fā)你的創(chuàng)造力。當(dāng)你有了工作之外的愛好時(shí)，你就會(huì)更好地平衡自己的生活。

7. Follow your gut.
跟著感覺走。

Does a boss seem crazy? Does that guy make you question his intentions? If a decision doesn't feel like the right one, deep down, then it probably isn't. Follow your instinct and let it guide you. It'll help you in the future.
老板是不是看起來很瘋狂？那個(gè)人是不是讓你質(zhì)疑他的意圖？如果某個(gè)決定讓人感覺不是那么正確，實(shí)際上它大概就是不對的。跟隨自己的直覺，讓它來指引你。這會(huì)在將來對你有所幫助。