Being kind to yourself in everyday life is one of the best things you can do for yourself. Life will become lighter and your relationships will most likely improve. You will feel happier overall. And your self-esteem and your sense of deserving good things in life will go up.
日常生活里，善待自己是你能為自己做的最好的事情之一。生活會變得更輕松，人際關系會得到改善，整個人也會更加幸福。你也會更加自信，更能感覺到生活的美好。

To make positive change with that simply start a new habit today. One of kindness towards yourself. You can find 9 such habits of self-kindness below.
積極地改變自己，以此為開始，每天培養(yǎng)一個新的習慣。這也是善待自己的一種方式。下文中你可以找到9種善待自己的習慣。

1. Invest in yourself.
為自身投資

Spend 30-60 minutes in the morning or evening with reading, listening to or watching material that uplifts you, that helps you to understand yourself and the world or that helps you to live a better life. Then, if possible, take one small action on what you have learned.
每天早晚花上30-60分鐘時間讀、聽或看一些東西，這些能幫助你提高自己、幫助你更好的理解自己和這個世界，幫助你過上更好的生活。之后你要盡可能學以致用，哪怕是很小的部分也可以。

2. Find the truth and exception when an inner critic or outer critic attacks.
當自我否定和外部批評來襲時，找出事實和例外

Your own inner critic may not always say nice things about you to you. People around you may attack you or try to bring you down to serve one of their own needs. If you or someone else does this, ask yourself: what is the exception to this?
內(nèi)心對于自己的評價可能并不總是積極正面的。你周圍的人，也會出于自身的某種需要而攻擊你或試圖將你打倒。如果你或者別人這樣做了，問問自己：是不是有什么例外？

3. Set a low bar for happiness.
降低幸福標準

Wake up in the morning. Relax for a minute. Tell yourself: “Today I will set a low bar for happiness”.
早晨醒來之后，先放松一下，然后告訴自己：“今天我會降低幸福的標準?！?/div>

The small things or what may be something one takes for granted becomes something I now often pause for a moment or two to take in and appreciate. This approach to the day makes life lighter, more joyful and it becomes easier to keep the motivation up.
那些生活中一些別人覺得理所當然的東西，我常常會為此停留片刻并駐足欣賞。這會使生活更加輕松愉快，更容易保持激情。

4. Unstress tonight.
今晚無壓力

Take a long bath and read something to escape. Or talk to someone about something that is on your mind and let it all out. Set aside 30 minutes or more and be kind to your body and mind by letting the tensions and stress out.
泡一個舒服的熱水澡，讀一些暫時能讓自己逃避現(xiàn)實的東西，找個朋友聊聊天，將一直憋在心中的煩惱全部釋放出去。預留出30分鐘或更多的時間，善待自己的身體和心靈，讓緊張和壓力遠離自己。

5. Mediocre day?
平淡的一天？

Take one small step forward towards something positive. If your day feels mediocre or just sort of depressing then take one small step towards something positive to breathe new hope and optimism into your day and week.
向積極的方向邁出一小步。如果你感覺到生活平淡或?qū)嵲谟行阂?，就向積極的東西邁進，為人生注入新的希望和樂觀精神。

Book or research a trip you want to take. Setup a dinner or a cup of coffee with a good friend. Look into how you can grow in your career to get new and exciting stuff to do. Try a new hobby.
預訂一次你盼望已久的旅行；和好朋友共進一頓晚餐或一起喝杯咖啡；思考一下如何為事業(yè)注入更新更有激情的血液；嘗試一種新的愛好。

6. If you stumble, be your own best friend.
如果遇到了挫折，做自己最好的朋友

Don’t beat yourself up, that will erode your self-esteem. Be a kind and supportive friend to yourself instead. Ask yourself: How would my friend/parent support me and help me in this situation? And then do things and talk to yourself like he or she would.
不要自暴自棄，這會損傷你的自信。相反，這時候要自己為自己打氣。問問你自己：在這種情況下，我的朋友或父母會怎么支持我和幫助我？像他們對你那樣對待自己。

And remember to ask yourself what you can learn from your stumble and if there is an opportunity in this situation. Then take that new knowledge you gain and move forward once again.
記得問問自己，你可以從這次挫折中學到什么，挫折中是否蘊含著機遇。然后從中獲得新知識并再一次前進。

7. Take a laugh-break.
笑一笑，放松下

Take 20-30 minutes in the middle of your day or if that is not possible then use your morning or evening. Use your cell phone, portable media player, computer or TV and watch an episode of a sitcom, read a funny book or comic or listen to a podcast you know makes you laugh.
每天中午抽出20 - 30分鐘（如果沒時間，早晚也可以），用手機、便攜式媒體播放器、電腦或電視看一集情景喜劇、讀一本有趣的書或者漫畫，或聽一個能讓自己開懷大笑的播客。

8. Remember, the future is still in your hands.
記住，未來仍掌握在自己手中

And it is never too late to change. Don’t get stuck in thought loops that just go round and round about what you could have done or what went wrong.
改變永遠都不會晚。不要總想著那些無可挽回的事情：我當時應該怎么做？到底哪里出問題了？這些想法都已經(jīng)無濟于事。

Think about what you really want in the rest of your life instead. Better health? A great relationship? New challenges in your career? What are a few small steps you can take towards that goal? Take one of those steps today. Then another tomorrow.
相反，要想想你的余生真正想要的是什么。更好的身體？良好的人際關系？職業(yè)生涯中新的挑戰(zhàn)？想實現(xiàn)這些目標，你可以采取些什么行動？今天就開始邁出第一步。然后循序漸進。

9. Simply remind yourself of why is smart to be kind to yourself.
提醒自己：善待自己是明智的行為

By knowing the reasons why it is smart to be kinder to yourself it, in my experience, becomes easier and easier to be kind to yourself and to take the time for it every day.
要是你知道為什么善待自己是明智的選擇，在我看來，這會讓你覺得善待自己是越來越容易的事情，并逐漸形成習慣。