Be very careful with how you behave and act when you want to get out of the friend zone and when you are getting serious with a girl.
當你跟某個女孩正式交往的時候，如果想走出所謂的“朋友區(qū)”，你就要在平時的舉動上特別小心。

Today, I'm going to talk about how to get out of the friend zone. If you're in the friend zone, it means that you're a great companion, you're someone a girl likes to hang out with but you're not coming across the sexually attractive. So, this is about how you can subtly come across as sexually attractive.
今天我們來討論一下怎樣才能擺脫“朋友區(qū)”的命運。如果是一個戀人未滿的身份，那么起碼說明你還有一定的重要性，要么是一個很好的朋友，或者是一個很好的幫手。女孩們可能會愿意跟你一塊兒出去玩，但不會輕易越過那道“最后的防線”。所以這期節(jié)目是關(guān)于如何成功“越線”的教程。

The number one aphrodisiac for girls is confidence. If you're confident in who you are, confident in the way that you look, confident in what you do, you're going to come across as very attractive. Now, this isn't confidence point of arrogance, this is confidence where you believe in yourself but you don't have to boast too much about it.
對于女性來說，最有效的歸化劑是自信。如果你能對你自己的身份和面相、對你所從事的事業(yè)都是自信滿滿，那么你將會成為一個非常迷人的男人。不過自信不是自大，相信自己并不是到處招搖的自大。

Now, if you want to show that actually you are a bit different and you're not just a friend, do something to get yourself noticed and so that that girl sees you. So, it could be that you run a marathon, you win a competition, you do some voluntary work, you do something that really gets you noticed. In terms of being desirable, it can be something which makes you look different so you might lose weight or you could change your looks slightly going from a smart to a more casual look or you could have a completely different wardrobe.
如果你想被人認為并非普通人等，不想僅僅當一個可有可無的朋友，你需要做些引人注目的事情，這樣你心儀的女孩才可能注意到你的存在。你可以參加馬拉松，贏得一場比賽，或者參加一些志愿者工作，這些事情可以讓你顯得不平凡。如果你想有效地擺脫掉友達以上的標簽，你可以做些大的改變，比如減肥、洗心革面，或者對自己的行頭做一番迥異的改變。

The second thing about being desirable is that should be desirable to the opposite sex. So, to do this, you really want to show that as one of your friend, you have people of the opposite sex around you. So, it could be that you have girls around you that are also friends.
其次有效的方法是使自己變得招異性喜歡。你要讓你心儀的女孩明白，即使她是你的女神，你還是有其他的異性朋友的，并且很受她們待見。而且，你身邊的這些異性，同樣可以成為自己的第二情人

When you want to step up, should be getting out of the friend zone, you need to do some physical things. So, one thing that can be really good to get out of the friend zone is to go on a non-date. Now, a non-date is different from a date because it's not the same as the traditional things you do like going for dinner.
當你想走的更進一步時，你需要做些實事，堅持非正式約會是個不錯的選擇。非正式約會嚴格意義上講并不算是約會，因為在這樣的約會里傳統(tǒng)的約會要做的事情，如共進晚餐，都不會發(fā)生。

It's something which doesn't feel so pressured. So, you might invite your friend out for coffee or you might do an activity together like going shopping or going to an exhibition. Now, once you've done this, you want to make it more obvious that you want to get out of the friend zone.
通常都是一些相對輕松的事情。你可以邀請對方出去喝一杯咖啡，或者一起出去購物，或者一起去參加展覽。通過這些途徑，你與對方更進一步發(fā)展的愿望將表達的更加清楚無疑。

So, make sure you're flirting. Now, the number one reason why guys do stay in the friend zone is because girls are getting messages. So, flirt, make it actually conscious that you're flirting so compliment her.
確保自己的狀態(tài)。男孩子們停留在“友達以上，戀人未滿”的狀態(tài)，最主要的原因就是：除了過度的一本正經(jīng)，女孩子們接收不到其他的信息。所以，大膽的談情說愛吧，去表露自己的心意，去贊美她的魅力。

Maybe say how nice her dress is but then maybe take that flirting a bit further as you build more trust. Make it sound a bit more sexual, a bit more risky. So, it could be something like, “I like the way that dress hugs your figure”.
也可以用衣服很有品這樣的話獲得她更多的信任，然后在此基礎(chǔ)上更進一步：“這衣服在你身上提別合身?！?/div>

Something which girls really want to see is that they want to see that man's side of you so you don't just come across as a friend. So, this could be taking control of situations, ordering when you go to a restaurant, doing all the chivalrous things like opening doors, opening the car door, making sure that her coat's on when you leave the restaurant. When you've done all of this and you've actually got some confidence, you've got some feedback, the girl's flirting back, she's noticing you, she's admiring your achievements, then it's the time to make your move.
女生大多喜歡看到男性身上男人的一面，所以在作為備胎的時候也不能僅僅以一個朋友的身份行事。在任何情況下都要hold住場面，去飯店時候為她點菜，做所有體現(xiàn)騎士風度的事情，無論是剛到達的時候開車、開門還是離開時替她披上外套，所有這些都會收到豐碩的回報：對自己的滿意，對方的青眼有加，對你的仰慕加曖昧。所有這些之后，就可以采取下一步的動作了。

Now, when I say make your move, I mean going for that kiss. Now, when you do your first kiss on the lips, you don't want to go over the top and be overly passionate but do a subtle kiss and it might be that you want to do the kiss with some words like, “I just want to kiss you” or “Could I kiss you?” So, this is how to get out of the friend zone. .
現(xiàn)在該再進一步了，也就是到了我所說的定情一吻的時候了。第一次接吻的時候，不想毀了這個機會就不要過分用力，當然也不要熱情過頭，只要輕輕的一個吻，再加上幾個字就更好了，比如說“我只想吻你一下”或者“我可以吻你嗎？”這樣，你就不再是一個可有可無、無關(guān)緊要的人了。

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