（內(nèi)地演員白靜）

快訊：2月28日下午，有圈內(nèi)人士爆料稱，曾經(jīng)在影片《功夫詠春》 中飾演嚴(yán)詠春的青年演員白靜于2月28日上午在自己住所被其丈夫周成海刺殺身亡。目前，北京朝陽(yáng)警方已確認(rèn)白靜被丈夫刺死，而其丈夫周成海隨后也自殺身亡。據(jù)悉兩人因感情糾紛發(fā)生爭(zhēng)吵，案件在進(jìn)一步調(diào)查當(dāng)中。圈內(nèi)人士還報(bào)料稱，白靜與周成海夫妻倆積怨已久，周成海母親去世是白靜被殺的直接誘因。消息傳出后，白靜的中戲同班同學(xué)毛俊杰、唐嫣等人均表示難以置信，紛紛在微博上悼念白靜。（騰訊娛樂）

（《功夫詠春》劇照）

打女”白靜曾被譽(yù)楊紫瓊接班人

白靜，1983年6月4日生于遼寧省調(diào)兵山市，中央戲劇學(xué)院2002級(jí)表演系本科畢業(yè)，出演過(guò)《血色湘西》《見龍卸甲》《功夫詠春》《鐵人》等多部電影、電視劇。在電影《功夫詠春》中，白靜演女主角，她是吳思遠(yuǎn)千挑萬(wàn)選的武打新星，更被稱為“楊紫瓊接班人”，之前接受采訪謙虛地稱：會(huì)繼續(xù)朝著“打女”方向發(fā)展。

（《血色湘西》劇照）

影視新人白靜，一個(gè)熟悉又陌生的名字，她造就了一個(gè)戲未出人先紅的神話。湖南衛(wèi)視暑期下一季即將推出投資2000萬(wàn)的自制大戲《血色湘西》，白靜正是著名的龔智飛導(dǎo)演從眾多演員里挑選出來(lái)挑起大梁，女一號(hào)“穗穗”的扮演者。熟悉網(wǎng)絡(luò)的朋友早已熟悉了白靜這個(gè)名字，早已經(jīng)熟悉了她那張清新漂亮的臉，早已經(jīng)熟悉了湘西山頂美麗的苗家姑娘的扮相和她英武的軍資。中戲出身的白靜，在校期間就成功出演過(guò)數(shù)十部音樂劇，畢業(yè)后被中國(guó)兒藝收歸旗下，一直活躍在音樂劇舞臺(tái)，對(duì)于表演早已不是稚嫩新手。出于對(duì)表演的熱愛，為了拓寬演藝事業(yè)的領(lǐng)域，白靜選擇轉(zhuǎn)戰(zhàn)熒屏。（百度）

上天看似對(duì)于這這年輕演員非常眷顧，只可惜紅顏薄命。如今網(wǎng)上關(guān)于她的傳聞非常多，有的人爆料她的丈夫周成海40多歲，是個(gè)身價(jià)十幾億的富翁，白靜曾經(jīng)出演的《血色湘西》就是周投資的。在兩人當(dāng)初結(jié)婚時(shí)，周成海的母親就強(qiáng)烈反對(duì)。如今“小三”上位伙同黑社會(huì)騙老公2000萬(wàn)。也有人稱白靜的丈夫周成海是北京人，80后，經(jīng)濟(jì)實(shí)力確實(shí)不錯(cuò)，圈外人。他身材壯實(shí)，以前練過(guò)散打，對(duì)于白靜管的非常嚴(yán)，兩人常常吵架……無(wú)論如何，斯人已去，還是希望這件事能夠快點(diǎn)水落石出，也好讓逝者安息。

無(wú)論是什么原因，兩夫妻總是吵架總是不好的。那么如何才能健康的經(jīng)營(yíng)好婚姻呢？

"A good marriage is one which allows for change and growth in the individuals and in the way they express their love" - Pearl S. Buck

Look for the good 看到對(duì)方好的一面

When you fell in love you only see the good in your partner. You were not selfish. To keep your love alive, accept him for what he is just like when you were infatuated. Love him for what he is instead of thinking only of your needs.Don't over react to his negative behavior and weaknesses. Learn to forgive and get rid of grudges. Allow your partner the freedom to be the way he is completely and unconditionally.
當(dāng)你沐浴在愛中時(shí)，你只能看到對(duì)方好的一面。你一點(diǎn)兒也不自私。當(dāng)你被愛沖昏頭腦時(shí)，你為了維持愛會(huì)接受對(duì)方的一切。當(dāng)一切歸于平靜，請(qǐng)要愛他原來(lái)的樣子，而不是你想要對(duì)方成為的樣子。不要對(duì)于對(duì)方不好的行為或者弱點(diǎn)有過(guò)激的反應(yīng)。學(xué)會(huì)體諒和原諒，不要有怨意。給你的另一半自由去完全的做自己。

Communicate 溝通

Talk and listen but avoid nagging. Never let a day pass without discussing and communicating. Share your problems with him and tell him yours. Talk about dreams, goals and love. Don't bring your anger to the next day. Resolve it or forget about it.
溝通傾聽，不要碎碎念。不能一天不溝通交流。與對(duì)方分享自己的困擾。分享自己的夢(mèng)想、目標(biāo)、愛與喜好。不要把氣帶到第二天。解決你的怒氣，或者忘了它。

Let go of psychological dependency and expecting approval 不要過(guò)度依賴對(duì)方

Any relationship succeeds when there is interdependence. You must take responsibility for yourself. Avoid making your partner the source of your happiness. You are moments away from depression if you depend on your partner's words and actions to live your life.
成功的兩性關(guān)系是建立在互相依賴上的。你要對(duì)自己負(fù)責(zé)。不要讓你的另一半成為你幸福的唯一來(lái)源。如果你一切的生活都建立在對(duì)方的話或者行為上，那么你就離抑郁不遠(yuǎn)了。

Avoid trying to be right 不要一味力求自己是對(duì)的

When you try to be right you are trying to have control. Your marriage will suffer. You will hurt yourself and your husband. A demanding relationship will not survive for long. Focus instead on what needs improvement and work on it. The best thing to do is work on you.
當(dāng)你一味追求自己是對(duì)的，那么你就是在試圖控制對(duì)方。你的婚姻會(huì)受到影響。你會(huì)讓自己以及對(duì)方受到傷害。一段過(guò)于苛刻的婚姻無(wú)法長(zhǎng)久。更專注在你們之間需要改進(jìn)的地方，試圖有所改變。最好的辦法是從自己下手，找到自己的問(wèn)題在哪兒，改掉不好的地方。

Ask for what you want 告知對(duì)方你想要什么，你的感受

Know your feelings. Be honest with what you want. Your partner cannot read your mind. Ask for what you want without using threats and manipulations.Let him know of how you feel. Learn to say "No" to something you don't want to do or give. Obligation can cause problems in your relationship.
知道自己的感受，知道自己要什么。對(duì)自己想要的東西誠(chéng)實(shí)。你的另一半不會(huì)讀心術(shù)。告訴對(duì)方你要什么，但不要用威脅的方式。告訴對(duì)方你的感受和想法。對(duì)于你不想要做或者給的東西學(xué)會(huì)說(shuō)“不”。所謂的義務(wù)會(huì)給你們的關(guān)系造成問(wèn)題。

Build trust 互相信任

Trust is an important component. Trust that he loves you and is honest. Don't snoop or spy on him. Avoid feeling doubtful and jealous. When you behave this way, your spouse will feel suffocated. And it shows that you have low self esteem.
信任是非常重要的一個(gè)因素。相信對(duì)方是真的愛你的，對(duì)方也是誠(chéng)實(shí)的。不要暗中監(jiān)視或者調(diào)查對(duì)方。避免質(zhì)疑或者嫉妒的心理。當(dāng)你一直疑神疑鬼時(shí)，你的另一半會(huì)感到窒息。而且這樣你也就自我貶值了。

Respect 學(xué)會(huì)尊重

Have self respect and your spouse will treat you right. Listen when he's talking and he will do the same. Don't embarrass him or criticize him in the presence of others and he won't do it to you. If he does, tell him that you don't like it.
有自尊，對(duì)方也會(huì)尊重你。當(dāng)對(duì)方在說(shuō)話時(shí)，學(xué)會(huì)傾聽。這樣但你說(shuō)話時(shí)，對(duì)方也會(huì)聽。不要在其他人面前讓他丟臉或者跟他抬杠，這樣他也不會(huì)這樣。如果他這么做了，告訴他你不喜歡這樣被對(duì)待！

Create space 要有自己的空間?

Though you are married, live together and share almost everything, allow for personal space for each one at home and outside. You should have your own group of friends that you don't have to share with him and allow him to do the same.
雖然你們已經(jīng)結(jié)婚了，你們住在一起，幾乎分享所有的事物。但是無(wú)論在家里還是在外面，仍要給對(duì)方也給自己一點(diǎn)私人空間。你要有自己的朋友，這些朋友也許你不必全部與他分享。同樣也允許他有自己的朋友。