10 Wise Lessons: What I Wish I Knew When I Was Younger
過(guò)來(lái)人的10句箴言：年輕的時(shí)候懂這些道理就好了

As I recently celebrated another year of life and am entering a new phase of mid-life (whatever that is) I began to contemplate the lessons that I would pass on to my younger self.
最近剛過(guò)完生日，人到中年，人生進(jìn)入了一個(gè)新的階段，我開始思索年輕時(shí)候的我學(xué)到的經(jīng)驗(yàn)教訓(xùn)。

Whether you are young or young at heart, it is never too late to change — or incorporate some new (and better) practices into your daily life. Here are 10 wise lessons that I wish I knew when I was younger:
不管你是真的風(fēng)華正茂，或是心態(tài)年輕，改變，或讓自己的生活吸收一些新的更好的嘗試，永遠(yuǎn)為時(shí)不晚。下面是我希望我在年輕的時(shí)候就懂得的10個(gè)道理：

1. Don’t worry about what other people think of you.
走自己的路，讓別人去說(shuō)吧。

I used to worry too much what others thought of me, of my decisions and of my actions. Eventually, I came to realize that if you’re wasting too much time seeking validation, respect or approval from others, then you won’t have time to accomplish all that you desire. Everyone has an opinion, but in reality other’s opinions of you are based more on their history and perceptions than anything you’re actually doing.
我總是會(huì)太過(guò)擔(dān)心別人對(duì)我的看法，他們會(huì)怎么看待我的決定和行為？我后來(lái)意識(shí)到，如果你把時(shí)間浪費(fèi)在尋求別人的認(rèn)可、尊重和支持，那你就根本無(wú)暇做你自己想做的事。人們都會(huì)有自己的看法，但實(shí)際上其他人對(duì)你的看法更多地基于他們自身的歷史和認(rèn)知，而并不是你實(shí)際在做的事情。

2. Today is what’s important.
活在當(dāng)下。

Enjoy every moment of today, because you are not guaranteed a tomorrow. Don’t put off your dreams. Don’t wait to do, try, enjoy all of those “someday” items. If it’s important to you, then DO IT TODAY. Pay attention to what is happening now, to the people around you, to the task at hand and to all of the choices you make today, big and small.
享受今天的每分每秒，因?yàn)槟銦o(wú)法保證明天就一定會(huì)到來(lái)。不要拖延自己的夢(mèng)想，別等到“將來(lái)某一天”再去做，去嘗試，去享受。如果真的很重要，那就只爭(zhēng)朝夕今天就做！關(guān)注正在發(fā)生的事情，身邊的人，手上的工作，關(guān)注今天做出的選擇，無(wú)論大小。

3. Let it go.
學(xué)會(huì)放手。

What happened yesterday is over. Those unmet expectations, difficult situations, failures and conflicts are in the past. You can’t change it, so let it go. Don’t waste your energy dwelling on anger, resentment or disappointment. It only keeps you stuck in the past and holds you back from moving forward in your life.
昨日種種譬如昨日死，那些沒(méi)有實(shí)現(xiàn)的期待，那些艱難困苦、失敗和沖突都已成為過(guò)去，你無(wú)力改變，所以干脆放手。別把自己的精力浪費(fèi)在糾結(jié)著生氣、憤恨和失望這些負(fù)面情緒上，這些只會(huì)讓你沉湎過(guò)去，讓你停滯不前。

4. It’s called work for a reason.
付出總會(huì)有回報(bào)。

Success at anything takes work. When you hear about an overnight success story, don’t forget about all of the work that came before. You may have to do work you do not enjoy and trudge through the trenches of planning, building, refining, moving up, out, over and redefining before you get to the place where success clicks. Keep going.
任何成功都需要付出勞動(dòng)。你所聽(tīng)到的那些一夜成名的故事，不要忘記背后付出的所有勞動(dòng)和汗水。也許你得做無(wú)愛(ài)的工作，需要在計(jì)劃、構(gòu)建、修改、實(shí)施、再修改這一系列瑣碎的過(guò)程中艱難前行，直到突然有一天成功破天而降。繼續(xù)前進(jìn)不要停。

5. Believe in yourself.
相信自己。

You are your own worst critic, and so can you be your own best supporter. If you do not have confidence in your own value, abilities and contribution, then nobody else will either. You must have faith in your intrinsic worth. We each have something to offer that is necessary and valuable, though we may not know what that something is.
你是自己最尖刻的批評(píng)家，也可以是自己最大的支持者。假如你對(duì)自己的價(jià)值、能力和貢獻(xiàn)都沒(méi)有信心，那么其他人更不會(huì)相信你。要對(duì)自己的內(nèi)在價(jià)值有絕對(duì)的信念。我們每個(gè)人身上都會(huì)有一些有價(jià)值的東西可以給予，可能我們自己都不知道。

6. Don’t burn your bridges.
別自斷后路。

You never know when a former boss, colleague, business partner or acquaintance may come in handy. Try to part on good terms, stay on good terms and never gossip about former connections. Be respectful and open to possibilities. Maintain and foster connections on all levels. Connect others and offer your help to those you know. A wide pool of friends, peers and connections of all kinds will provide a wealthy resource of ideas and support as you go forward in life.
前老板、前同事、以前的生意伙伴或是熟人，說(shuō)不定哪天就派上用場(chǎng)了。好聚好散，和他們保持良好的關(guān)系，也別在背后嚼人家舌根。學(xué)會(huì)尊重別人，可能無(wú)處不在。保持和培養(yǎng)各級(jí)的關(guān)系網(wǎng)，和別人保持聯(lián)絡(luò)，對(duì)別人伸出援手。交友廣闊，朋友、同事和其他各種關(guān)系人脈會(huì)為你未來(lái)的生活提供豐富創(chuàng)意資源和支持。

7. Money is not the most important thing.
金錢并不至上。

Money is important. We all have bills to pay, I understand that completely. But in the end, money is not the end goal. Satisfaction in a job well done, contributing to something worthwhile and finding something you enjoy doing are more motivating goals and certainly lend themselves to a happier and less stressful life. Money does not equate to happiness. Money is simply a currency that allows you to eat, dress and live. It is not a magic wand.
錢很重要，我們都有賬單要付，我完全能理解。但最終你會(huì)發(fā)現(xiàn)，金錢并不是我們的終極目標(biāo)。圓滿完成工作的滿足感，為一些有價(jià)值的事情做貢獻(xiàn)，還有找到自己愛(ài)做的事，這些目標(biāo)更加會(huì)讓你有動(dòng)力，也會(huì)為你帶來(lái)更快樂(lè)輕松的生活。金錢不等于幸福。錢只是讓我們吃穿生活的貨幣，它不是哈利波特的魔法杖。

8. Don’t be afraid to stand up and stand out.
勇敢地站起來(lái)，讓自己脫穎而出。

Take a stand. Speak up. Stand out from the crowd. If something is important to you, then stand up for it…Never compromise your integrity. If it’s not right, say so. Be quirky, be different, be yourself. Don’t worry so much about conforming to society’s standards or whatever passes for the norm. While I do think it reasonable to be clean, respectful and considerate, I think we place too much emphasis on fitting in and being “appropriate.” This is not your grandmother’s world. Don’t be afraid to be yourself.
站起來(lái)，說(shuō)出來(lái)，讓自己從人群中脫穎而出。如果有樣?xùn)|西對(duì)你很重要，那就站起來(lái)去爭(zhēng)取。不要放棄你的正直。如果你覺(jué)得不對(duì)，就說(shuō)出來(lái)。特立獨(dú)行，與眾不同，做自己就好。別事事循規(guī)蹈矩，要遵循社會(huì)的標(biāo)準(zhǔn)和準(zhǔn)則。衣著整潔、尊重有禮、體貼周到，這樣就可以了，不用太多強(qiáng)調(diào)融入他人和舉止得體。如今早不是祖母的舊黃歷了，別害怕，勇敢做自己。

9. It’s not a race.
生活不是競(jìng)賽。

We have so much to do, so much to accomplish and it feels as though we have to be in a hurry to get there. It is likely that you will live upwards of 80 years. That is plenty of time to fit a whole host of wonderful endeavors into your life. You do not have to do it all at once. In fact, if you try to do it all at once you will, at best not have time to enjoy it and at worst burn out and damage your health and relationships. Slow down and take one thing at a time, one day at a time.
我們有很多事兒要做，有很多夢(mèng)想要實(shí)現(xiàn)，所以我們時(shí)刻匆匆忙忙，趕來(lái)趕去。其實(shí)我們可能會(huì)活到80歲，所以有大量的充裕時(shí)間可以努力。別急著一次干完所有的事情。實(shí)際上如果你想要一次做好所有想做的事情，最好的結(jié)果是你沒(méi)享受過(guò)程，最壞的結(jié)果是你消耗了健康，毀掉了感情。放慢腳步慢慢來(lái)，一次干一件事情，日子一天一天的過(guò)。

10. Look for the good in everything.
凡事往好的方面想。

Stay positive. Look for the good in people. Celebrate the happy moments, big and small. Give helpful encouragement rather than negative criticism. If you view the world around you and life’s challenges through the lens of goodness, then you will find life much more enjoyable.
要樂(lè)觀向上，擅于發(fā)掘別人的優(yōu)點(diǎn)，慶祝生活中的大大小小的快樂(lè)瞬間。多給別人暖心的鼓勵(lì)，避免負(fù)面的批評(píng)。如果你用善意的視角看世界和面對(duì)生活的挑戰(zhàn)，你會(huì)發(fā)現(xiàn)生活會(huì)更美好。

Life is serious — and sometimes awful — but you can still be upbeat and hopeful. Otherwise, what’s the point?
生活不是兒戲—有可能還還很糟糕—但你還是可以樂(lè)觀向上充滿希望，要不然，人生又有什么意義？