每個人都有屬于自己的記憶，不論美好或悲傷，那些已經(jīng)逝去的時光都永遠不再回來，隨著歲月的流逝，成為顆顆璀璨的鉆石在生命里熠熠生輝。
Recently when I was driving, I had a deep and sudden sense of Ed and the way it felt to have him next to me in the car. My body softened as it used to when we were together seven years ago, living a shared life. I wasn't remembering his face or the way be walked; the careful details I had stored had nothing to do with this moment in the car. Looking in the rearview mirror, I recognized in my own face the same look I once saw on my mother's face in the nursing home. I had asked her a question about my father, and she became confused about his identity. Yet, as she sat there, dressed in a shapeless polyester outfit, she breifly appeared young and radiant, her face filled with love and her eyes became misty. Her brain couldn't label the man correctly, but that was not important. It was clear to me that her husband was vivid in her heart, a memory even Alzheimer's could not crush. I believe there is a difference between memory and remembering. Remembering has to do with turning the oven off before leaving the house, but memory is nurtured by emotion. It springs from a deeper well, safe from dementia and the passage of time.
最近，我在開車的時候，突然有種很強烈的感覺，覺得埃德好像就坐在我身邊。我的身體很放松，這跟7年前我們共同生活時的感覺一模一樣。在那一刻，我并沒有想起他的臉或者他走路的樣子，我記得的所有充滿掛念的細節(jié)都跟此刻車里發(fā)生的情景無關(guān)。透過車里的后視鏡，我看到自己的表情和在療養(yǎng)院里看到過的母親臉上那表情是一樣的。當時，我問了她關(guān)于父親的一個問題，她一臉迷惑，弄不清他是家中何人。然而，她坐在那里，穿著松垮的滌綸外套，有一瞬間她看起來年輕而富有光彩，臉上充滿了愛意，眼神變得朦朧而傷感。她的腦子無法辨認這個男人，但這并不重要。我清楚地指導(dǎo)，她丈夫活在她心中，這是一種即便是老年癡呆癥也無法摧毀的記憶。 我相信，“記憶”和“記得”兩只之間是有區(qū)別的?！坝浀谩笔请x家之前記得關(guān)掉烤箱，但“記憶”則是因感情而催生。它來自于更深處，而且不會因為老年癡呆癥或者時間的流逝而消退。