媒體資訊:我所選擇的愛

Of the many different kinds of the human relationships,marriage is perhaps the most intriguing. Two people,by their own ways of doing things,choosing to live together,compromising their own selfish impulses. We are fascinated by other people's marriages,famous and anonymous. Who watches the kids?Who cooks dinner?Who mows the lawn?How did they stay in love? This week in our series “This I believe”,we'll hear some thoughts about what it takes to make a marriage successful. Jessica Mercer Zerr doesn't need grand gestures,just a few small daily acts of kindness. "My husband gets up first to shower,giving me an extra 20 minutes to sleep. He wakes me with a kiss on my forehead and whispers he loves me. Then he leaves without turning on any lights,so I get five more minutes. He unloads the dishwasher and makes the decaf coffee we began drinking when we decided to start trying to conceive more than a year ago. When I emerge from my shower,my coffee is ready -- two sugars,cream,and he hands me the paper. We speak little.Morning edition and old-fashion oatmeal bubble in the background. At the end of the day,I cook supper,giving my husband half an hour to watch the news without interruption. After the weather report,he sits down at the table and watches while I finish cooking our meal. We eat and talk.Mostly we talk about what has to be done -- groceries to buy,grass to mow,bills to pay,and I mention that the door still sticks. After dinner,if the weather is nice,we go for a walk,maybe watch a little TV. Bedtime comes at nine-thirty. When the lights are out,we confess the things that worry us,drawing strength from each other's nearness. I believe this is love.