Whether you've chosen the single life or are between relationships, you can build a terrific solo life. And, if you're looking to attract true love, turns out that having a terrific single life is just the thing to do.
不管你是有意選擇單身，或者只是暫時“名花無主”，你都可以有一個人的精彩生活。如果你正在尋覓真愛，就更需要學會如何一個人過的好了。

1. Community

What it means: Building a community means having people who are there for you, people who care about you and your life.

Why it matters: Many singles feel lonely and disconnected, which affects their quality of life. They act as if the only way to get their emotional needs met is through a partner. Not true. Members of your community can meet many of your needs, and the more your needs get met, the less needy and the more attractive you become -- and the less you need a partner.

What you can do: Build community by volunteering or by joining clubs around subjects that interest you.

1. 團體

是什么：建設一個團體意味著身邊有關心你的那么一群人。

為什么：很多單身人士感到孤獨以致影響了他們的生活質量。他們以為找個伴侶是滿足情感需要的唯一方式。不。其實團體中的成員也能滿足你的很多需求。你的需求越是得到滿足，你就會變得越有魅力——并且越不需要一個伴侶。

怎么辦：通過做志愿工作或者加入有興趣的俱樂部。

2. A Life Rich in Pleasure

What it means: Such as being in nature, exercise or a good meal.

Why it matters: Many singles forego pleasure and self-care for their jobs or career. It's as if they themselves don't matter; only their accomplishments do.

What you can do: Add three luxurious, pleasurable things to your day. These don't have to be huge -- perhaps a 10-minute stroll, a few minutes reading a book, a cat nap, a body-care product that smells or feels good, a sit-down meal.

2. 充滿樂趣的生活

是什么：比如享受大自然，運動或者吃一頓大餐。

為什么：很多單身人士為了工作和事業(yè)放棄了快樂和自我關懷。就好像他們自己并不重要，只有他們的成就才重要。

怎么辦：每天為生活增添3樣令自己放送并且愉快的事物。并不一定得是什么重大事物——或許只是10分鐘的散步，幾分鐘的閱讀，打個盹，味道很好的護膚品，坐下來吃頓飯等等。

3. A Life Lived Now

What it means: Many singles wait until they're in a relationship to live the kind of life they want and to do the things they love to do. Yet your life happens now -- today. It's not a dress rehearsal for when you have a relationship.

Why it matters: When you want to participate in life, but stop yourself because you are single, you stifle your spirit. On the other hand, living your life now also makes you very attractive!

What you can do: Figure out what things you haven't done because you've been waiting for a partner. Which gives you the most charge when you think about it? Do them now.

3. 活在當下

是什么：很多單身人士總是等待墜入愛河的那一天再去過自己想要的生活?？墒悄憔突钤诋斚?，今天。現在的每一天并不是為以后日子的彩排。

為什么：當你想參與生活的時候，不要因為自己是單身就停止，不要讓你的靈魂窒息。另一方面，活在當下會讓你更有魅力！

怎么辦：想想你因為等待伴侶的到來而錯過的事情。哪一件讓你在想起的瞬間整個人充滿能量？現在就放手去做。