1 為什么要戀愛

Since this would be your first date, at least have good reasons why you want to meet or see someone. This would be the foundation of a successful date whether it would push through or if there would be follow-ups afterwards. If your intention is no clear, I am telling you that would be a disaster. So if you are not yet ready, forget it and sweat yourself out on other important things.
因?yàn)檫@是你們的第一次約會(huì)，所以在約會(huì)之前你要搞清楚和Ta約會(huì)的原因。不論之后戀情如何發(fā)展，這是一段成功戀情最基本的要素。如果你不確定自己戀愛的原因的話，我可以告訴你，接下來發(fā)生的事情對(duì)你來說絕對(duì)是災(zāi)難。所以如果你還沒有準(zhǔn)備好，那么就請(qǐng)放棄這個(gè)念頭，把生活重心放到其他更要的事情上吧。

2 男人：要考慮你的經(jīng)濟(jì)狀況

There is a common rule that men are the ones who should spend, especially if it is a first date and it is part of etiquette and good impressions. Of course, make sure that you have enough bucks in your pocket that would be more than sufficient on the amount of bill, not unless you have made a good research about the kind of activity that you would do aside from eating in a restaurant. Men and women could have a fair share but this mostly happens if you are on the 3rd to 4th dates.
一般來說，約會(huì)中如果想要留女伴下一個(gè)很禮貌的好印象，男人是需要買單的，特別是在第一次約會(huì)的時(shí)候。所以出去約會(huì)你當(dāng)然要保證口袋里買單之后還能有足夠的票子，除非你在事前就已經(jīng)調(diào)查好餐廳附近有什么好玩的地方。男女雙方AA制買單不是不可能，只不過這種情況通常是發(fā)生在第三或第四次約會(huì)的時(shí)候。

3 戀愛前要做好調(diào)查

This is not just an advice for women but for men too. You have to make a research about him or her. Know his or her past, particularly if the person that you would be meeting has past relationships and if it is possible know the reason of break ups. This would help you in approaching the person once your eyes meet.
這條建議男女都要仔細(xì)看。你要對(duì)Ta做個(gè)調(diào)查。了解Ta的過去，特別是當(dāng)是否對(duì)方有戀愛史以及與前任的分手原因。做好事前調(diào)查能幫你在你們第一次對(duì)視時(shí)就能迅速走進(jìn)Ta的心。

4 在約會(huì)之前想好導(dǎo)入問題

Using basic questions on your own will help you visualize how he or she feels or what might be his or her reactions.
自己準(zhǔn)備一些問題能夠幫你弄明白Ta對(duì)你的感覺和想法。

5 有些事情是不該問的

This is connected to number 3. There are wrong questions, which are being asked that could be sensitive or might offend the person.This actually happens if we make ourselves too comfortable upon facing them where a disaster on a date itself happens. Relax and be yourself but do not be too close right away.
這一點(diǎn)和剛才所說的第三點(diǎn)是有聯(lián)系的。有些問題問出來之后會(huì)戳到人家敏感點(diǎn)，甚至?xí)胺溉思?。?dāng)你面對(duì)對(duì)方感覺過分放松的時(shí)候，就很可能是犯這種錯(cuò)誤的時(shí)候。所以當(dāng)你面對(duì)對(duì)方的時(shí)候既要放松，又不可過分放松。

6 搞清對(duì)方年齡

This is an important part of your checklist. Of course, there is a saying that “age doesn’t matter” but it does matters, especially, if your age is halfway where you would need to make some adjustments.
這是你事前調(diào)查要做的一個(gè)重要部分。雖然有“年齡不重要”的說法，但是事實(shí)卻并非如此，特別是在你即將蛻變成“剩男/剩女”的階段。

7 約會(huì)前問清楚對(duì)方是否有時(shí)間

This actually serves the best interest for women since economically, men provide everything, and they do spend much of the activities that they do with women, especially during dating stage.
這一點(diǎn)在女生身上特別需要注意，男方一般會(huì)比較愿意花時(shí)間和女生待在一起，特別是約會(huì)的時(shí)候。

8 了解對(duì)方信仰

What would really make a good relationship is a mutual understanding that comes if two people understand each other. It is still ideal that you date someone whom you share the same standards with. Although the society thinks that love conquers everything but this is a precautionary measure to you that you won’t discuss things that might offend you about their beliefs.
兩個(gè)人之間的相互理解是一段完美感情必備的因素。如果你的另一半和你有著同樣的生活標(biāo)準(zhǔn)那是最理想的狀態(tài)。雖說愛能克服一切，但是相同信仰是保證你們倆不會(huì)做出些冒犯對(duì)方事情的預(yù)先保證。

9 搞清對(duì)方婚姻狀況

Make sure that you know if this person has been married or just came from a break up. Know some personal information so you can gauge if the person is trusting and can be a good collaborate. After all, dating is an avenue in forming a new relationship.
要搞清楚對(duì)方有沒有結(jié)過婚，還是剛分手。搞清楚這個(gè)私人信息能幫你正確估計(jì)這個(gè)是否值得信賴，是不是適合在一起。畢竟約會(huì)是戀愛的必經(jīng)之路。