Family
Operating a successful business is supposed to be a ticket to the good life -- but sometimes it comes at a cost. Stephen Adele was too busy building his $20 million Golden, Colo., nutritional supplements company, iSatori, to spend much time with his wife and three children.
事業(yè)成功理應(yīng)是通向美好生活的入場券——但有時,這是需要付出代價的。史蒂芬?阿黛勒斥資2,000萬美元,在美國科羅拉多州古登市成立了一家名為iSatori 的營養(yǎng)品公司。他一度因?yàn)樘珜W⒂诠窘?jīng)營,未能給妻子和三個孩子足夠的時間。
?"I would try to compensate by buying her and my family things," he recalls. The cars and jewelry didn't work, of course, and the couple just got divorced. Adele is now, finally, spending more time with his three daughters. Here's a little advice that might help you avoid matrimonial discord.
?“我設(shè)法補(bǔ)償他們,給她和家里買東西,”他回憶道。然而,汽車和珠寶首飾并沒有奏效,他們最終還是離婚了。如今,阿黛勒終于有更多的時間和三個女兒共處了。以下的幾條建議,也許能幫助你避免婚姻危機(jī)。
Keep a flexible schedule
1. Keep a flexible schedule
You may not be able to work less, but you probably have time to take a few items off your spouse's to-do list. Brad Dresbach, co-founder of the Columbus branding and marketing firm 42Fish, tackles such daily errands for his family as picking up birthday cakes -- relieving stress for his wife, Danielle, who has a much more inflexible corporate job.
1. 實(shí)行彈性工作制
工作量也許無法減少,但替妻子分擔(dān)幾項(xiàng)家務(wù)活的時間或許還是有的。哥倫布品牌與營銷公司42Fish的合伙創(chuàng)始人布雷德?德雷斯巴奇就就是這么做的。妻子丹妮爾在一家公司上班,工作時間沒那么靈活,布雷德就承擔(dān)起取生日蛋糕之類的家務(wù)事。這樣一來,丹妮爾的壓力就可以得到一些緩解了。
Ration e-mail time
2. Ration e-mail time
When you're home, be present. Jeff Booth, CEO of BuildDirect, a 63-employee building materials retailer, has a wife, Kelly, who posts what a great dad he is on Facebook, though he spends 60 hours a week working. He attributes that to shutting off his phone as soon as he gets home so he can enjoy activities with her and their children-- instead of checking e-mail poolside.
2.合理安排處理郵件的時間
在家時,就專心陪伴家人。杰夫?布思是建材零售企業(yè)BuildDirect的首席執(zhí)行官,該公司共有63名員工。盡管他每周工作時間多達(dá)60小時,但是他的妻子凱麗在Facebook上發(fā)貼,稱贊他是一位偉大的父親。他說,這是因?yàn)樗换丶?,就把手機(jī)關(guān)機(jī),這樣他就能和妻子和孩子一起享受家庭聚會——而不是在游泳池邊查收郵件。
Hold family summits
3. Hold family summits
D.J. Rezak, founder of KB Building Services, a commercial cleaning company in Omaha, credits weekly meetings with keeping the family organized and freeing up time for him to spend with his wife, Lisa. The family pauses during Sunday dinners to talk about the week, discuss upcoming plans, and hold an occasional talent show. "It makes it feel like our family is a priority," says Lisa.
3.召開家庭會議
KB樓宇服務(wù)公司(KB Building Services)是位于美國奧馬哈的一家商業(yè)清潔公司,其創(chuàng)始人D.J.瑞扎克說,每周會議可以讓家庭關(guān)系更密切,也使他有時間與妻子麗莎共處。他們會在周日晚餐時共同談?wù)摫局馨l(fā)生的事情,討論未來的計(jì)劃,偶爾還會舉辦才藝秀?!斑@讓我覺得家庭是頭等大事,”麗莎表示。
Share your interests
4. Share your interests
It's easy to get so caught up in your own thing that you ignore your partner's pursuits. Razor Suleman, CEO of I Love Rewards, a Boston rewards and recognition business with $50 million in sales, tries to avoid that mistake. He joined his wife, Kari, a web developer, at a summit she needed to go to for work. "It was amazing that Razor took an interest in an event that I was excited to attend," she says. "It sparked a dialogue we would not have had otherwise."
4.分享你的興趣
因?yàn)檫^度關(guān)注自己手頭的事情,而忽略了對方的興趣所在,這是很多人都容易犯的毛病。位于美國波士頓的我愛獎勵公司(I Love Rewards)是一家員工獎勵服務(wù)公司,銷售額為5,000萬美元。公司的首席執(zhí)行官瑞勒?蘇萊曼便是成功避免這個問題的典范。妻子卡麗是網(wǎng)頁開發(fā)工程師,當(dāng)她因工作需要必須參加會議時,瑞勒便會陪同前往。卡麗說:“瑞勒對我喜歡參加的活動也感興趣,這真讓人開心。否則,我們就缺少了這樣的對話機(jī)會。”
Schedule regular vacations
5. Schedule regular vacations
Brad Feld, founder of VC firm Foundry Group, started scheduling regular vacations after his wife, Amy Batchelor, almost dumped him for working during an entire weekend trip. They now have one-week vacations each quarter -- known as their "Qx vacation." The ground rules? He unplugs completely, giving her his smartphone. "She gives it back the following week," he says. Colleagues work around it, and Feld stays married.
5.定期安排假期
布拉德?菲爾德是風(fēng)險(xiǎn)投資公司Foundry集團(tuán)的創(chuàng)始人,有一次周末旅行時,他全程只顧工作,他的妻子艾米?巴切勒差點(diǎn)兒和他鬧離婚?,F(xiàn)在,他們每個季度都會安排為期一周的假期,他們稱之為“季度假期”。而作為“季度假期”基本規(guī)則,他必須把智能手機(jī)交給妻子,并與工作完全隔離。他說道:“她會在下一周把手機(jī)還給我。”現(xiàn)在,他的同事也紛紛效仿,而菲爾德則與妻子和好如初。