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“父母皆禍害”，這是一個擁有近7000名成員網(wǎng)絡(luò)討論小組的驚悚名字，“禍害”，80后子女形容50后父母。這里一個時代與另一個時代對峙，代溝是一種傳染每一代人的病毒。50后與80后，這兩代人分別出生、成長、思想定型于1949年以降中國社會所經(jīng)歷的、前后兩個完全斷裂的30年。裂縫之間，激蕩著左與右的博弈，退與進的拉鋸，集體與個人的沖突，物質(zhì)與精神的失衡，經(jīng)濟基礎(chǔ)與上層社會的位移……他們成了不以個人意志為轉(zhuǎn)移、既親近又最疏遠的父與子、母與女。

It takes at least 18 years' efforts for parents to raise a child, but what if the child says "parents are poison" when they grow up?

"I feel sad about their way of commenting on parents. We can not accept that as parents."

"Chinese parents usually strongly hope their child will have a bright future. So they often ignore the trivial behavior and feelings of their child. But to get along with children, the more strict you are, the more likely he will not listen to you."

The Anti-parents group on the online community has been enlarging. More and more 80s or 90s generation are posting their resentment of parents on the forum. Zhang Kun is the administrator of the group.

"Because I recognized the name of the group of this online forum was taken from a book I translated. So I kind of relating myself to the group. No one is perfect, no parents are perfect. Parents are no Gods. Of course you can point out the mistakes. They do make mistakes. At least through this forum, I would tell all the other group members that it's absolutely fine to criticize your parents."

Zhang Kun believes this online forum becomes popular nowadays because China doesn't have a social support system, where these angry children can speak out or show their hurt.

"What's common about those douban users are they want to highlight individual thinking. This is more like a rebellious group against the traditional roles of parents."

When some people say those who criticize their parents are really a rebellious group, ageing professor Lin Chongde from Beijing Normal University says he likes young people who were born in the 80s and 90s.

"The 80s generation has its own personalities and characters; they are influenced by the reform and opening up of China. I think most of the 80s girls and boys are very positive. They are different from the older generation, as they pay more attention to the quality of life, their own interest; and they are highly aware of their own rights and dignity. They hate authoritarianism and rules."

He says although the different characteristics of the 80s students have brought more possibilities in that they have a different opinion to their parents, they love their country and they can take responsibilities.

This can be proved by the fact that during the Beijing Olympic Games and the Shanghai World Expo, most of the volunteers are the 80s or 90s generation. And after the deadly earthquake in Wenchuan, many college students who are also from the 80s generation came to the quake-hit areas to help those victims.

Professor Lin suggests parents see the advantages of a child and educate the child in line with his or her personality, rather than overindulging the child; encourage them more, but it doesn't mean parents should not criticize their child. Parents should help their child analyze the situation, give advice, and - most importantly - give enough respect to the child.

For CRI, I am Zhang Wan.

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