In?far?too?many?classes?that?I?have?taught?over?thelast?5?years,?I?have?heard?the?refrain?from?students, "This?is?the?first?time?we?are?learningthis."?Or,?even?more?disturbing, "I?wish?I?had?learned?this?earlier?in?my?college?career."

在過去5年的時(shí)間里，在我教過的課堂中，總能從學(xué)生那里聽到這樣的說法，“這是我們第一次學(xué)習(xí)這方面的知識?！?或者能聽到更令人不安的說法，“我希望在大學(xué)中我能早點(diǎn)學(xué)到這方面的知識?！?/p>

What?are?some?of?the?life?lessons?I?would?teach?every?college?student--and?careerprofessional--if?I?had?the?chance??Here?are?seven?of?the?most?important?lessons?I?ferventlywish?everyone?could?have?the?chance?to?learn:

如果我有機(jī)會，我會教給每個大學(xué)生(也包括專業(yè)老師)哪些人生課呢？這里有七堂最重要的課程，我熱切希望每個人都能有機(jī)會學(xué)習(xí)一下：

1.?It's?a?waste?of?time?and?energy?to?find?the?person,?people?or?organization?to?"blame"?for?yourtroubles.

把自己面臨的困境歸咎于某個人、某群人或某個組織，這是在浪費(fèi)時(shí)間和精力。

There?are?so?many?things?in?life?that?aren't?fair;?Why??Because?you?can't?right?all?of?the?wrongs,?and?you?won't?ever?be?at?peace?if?you?are?looking?for?fair.?Does?that?mean?you?don't?try?tochange?things?or?fix?yourself??Of?course?not!?But,?more?importantly,?focus?on?those?things?youcan?control?and?you?can?influence.?Spend?minimal?time?on?those?things?that?are?completelyout?of?your?control.?Instead?of?blaming?and?finger-pointing,?figure?out?what?you?can?do?tomake?a?difference。

生活中有很多事情不公平，為什么？因?yàn)槟悴荒芗m正全部錯誤，如果你想要公平，你就不會內(nèi)心平靜。這是否代表你不應(yīng)該嘗試去改變什么，或是從自己身上做出調(diào)整改變呢？當(dāng)然不是！但是更重要的是，專注于那些你可以控制并能起到影響作用的事情上。在那些脫離你的控制的事情上用最少的時(shí)間。不是簡單地挑挑毛病轉(zhuǎn)嫁責(zé)任逃避責(zé)任，你要弄清楚，到底自己能做些什么才能帶來改變。

2.?Communication?isn't?natural?and?doesn't?come?easy?to?most?people。

溝通并不是自然而然的事情，溝通對于多數(shù)人來說都不是件容易的事情。

Yes,?we?learn?to?talk?at?an?early?age?and?talking,?as?well?as?walking,?is?a?natural?function?formost?people.?But?talking?and?communicating?are?two?different?things.?Communication?takesfocus?and?energy.?It?takes?a?sincere?interest?in?the?other?person?or?people.?It?requires?active?andreflective?listening.?In?other?words,?you?need?to?actually?care?about?others?if?you?ever?reallywant?to?communicate?effectively。

對！我們從小就學(xué)會了說話、走路，對多數(shù)人來說，是一種本身自然具備的能力。但說話和溝通是兩碼事。溝通需要精力專注、待人真誠，積極聽取他人意見和看法并對其做出反應(yīng)。換句話說，如果真的想做到有效溝通，需要真的在乎別人的感受。

3.?Learn?how?to?solve?your?own?problems.

學(xué)會如何解決自己的問題。

Stuck?in?a?rut??Many?people?are,?at?some?point?in?their?life.?Not?sure?what?to?do?next?or?how?toget?somewhere??It's?a?common?occurrence.?The?question?is?whether?you?spend?your?timelamenting?how?stuck?you?are,?or?you?devote?your?attention?to?finding?a?new,?creative?way?outof?your?problem.Be?a?problem-solver,?not?a?problem-maker。

停滯不前？很多人在生活的某一階段原地踏步停滯不前。不知道下一步該做什么？該怎么去往某個想去的地方？這都是常見現(xiàn)象。問題在于，你是把時(shí)間用在感嘆自己處于如此卡殼的狀態(tài)，還是把注意力轉(zhuǎn)移到尋找新的創(chuàng)造性的出路上。要成為問題解決者而不是成為麻煩制造者。

4.?Become?curious--about?yourself,?about?other?people?and?about?the?world?around?you.

保持好奇心——對自己、他人以及周遭世界

Don't?take?things?at?face?value?or?believe?everything?you?hear.?Ask?"why?"?as?often?as?a?three-year-old.?Be?interested?in?what's?underneath?any?information?you?hear,?or?learn.?Where?is?itcoming?from??Why?is?it?being?passed?along??What's?the?background?or?intention??This?isdifferent?from?being?paranoid--instead,?it's?taking?a?sincere?interest?in?learning.?Life?is?aschoolhouse?for?those?who?want?to?learn?and?explore。

不要只看表面價(jià)值或相信你的耳聞，要像一個三歲孩子一樣經(jīng)常問“為什么？” 對你聽來的任何信息都感興趣想要了解一下。這個信息來自哪里？為什么傳出這個信息？這個信息的背景和目的又是什么？這并不是偏執(zhí)狂，而是對真心想了解學(xué)習(xí)的興趣。對于那些想要學(xué)習(xí)和探索的人而言，生活是一座校舍。

5.?Never?stop?networking?or?making?connections.

永遠(yuǎn)都不要停止社交或停止建立聯(lián)系。

For?many?people?the?world?is?small;?it's?their?family?or?the?place?of?work?they?visit?each?day.?There?is?a?world?of?people?out?there?to?connect?with,?to?learn?from?and?to?engage?with.?Youdon't?have?to?become?a?social?butterfly,?flitting?from?one?event?to?another,?but?it's?importantto?have?connections?and?contacts.?Keep?in?touch?with?people.?Be?interested?in?their?lives?andshare?information?about?yours.?You?never?know?when?you?will?need?a?friend?or?colleague?tohelp?you?somewhere?along?the?way。

對很多人來說，世界很小，這個小小的世界是我們每天生活或工作的地方。這個世界的人們都有著千絲萬縷的聯(lián)系，人們互相聯(lián)系，相互學(xué)習(xí)，彼此接觸。你不必成為一名交際花，把每件事都靈活妥善處理好，但是與大家保持聯(lián)系很重要。要有興趣與大家分享你的生活和信息。你永遠(yuǎn)無法預(yù)料到在人生的某個時(shí)候，會需要朋友或同事幫你一把。

6.?Share?your?talents.

分享你的才能。

Everyone?has?a?gift?to?offer.?It's?a?waste?to?keep?your?gifts?hidden?from?the?world.?Find?out?whatyou?are?good?at,?or?the?talent?you?can?share,?and?actively?seek?places?to?share?those?gifts。

每個人都有自己天生的才華，把自己的才華隱藏起來是一種浪費(fèi)。發(fā)現(xiàn)自己的長處，或者找出你可以分享的才能，并積極尋求分享這些才華天賦的地方。

7.?Give?up?being?a?naysayer。

不要做消極的否定者。

There?are?plenty?of?people?who?can?tell?you?why?something?won't?work,?why?it?isn't?possible?andhow?negative?to?be.?There?are?numerous?newspapers?and?websites?to?tell?you?how?direcircumstances?are,?and?to?encourage?you?to?just?give?up.?Instead,?refuse?to?believe?thenaysayers?and?don't?participate?in?their?game.?Find?the?positive?in?every?day.?Simply?beingable?to?walk,?talk?and?breathe?is?a?gift.?Be?a?glass-half-full?kind?of?person?even?whencircumstances?seem?to?tell?you?otherwise。

有很多人都告訴你：為什么這樣不行，為什么這樣是不可能的，又有多消極。在處于嚴(yán)峻情況的形勢下，多家報(bào)紙和網(wǎng)站都只是鼓勵你大不了放棄而已。不應(yīng)該這樣，你應(yīng)該拒絕相信這些消極的否定者，不要加入他們的游戲。每天去發(fā)現(xiàn)積極的東西。簡單如會走路、會說話、能呼吸，都是生活中美好的禮物。即使情況似乎很糟糕，也要成為樂觀的人。

The?most?learned?person?can?only?gain?so?much?from?reading?books,?from?laboratory?testingand?from?sitting?in?class.?Real?learning?comes?from?experiencing?the?world?and?seeing?yourplace?in?it.?Try?and?apply?any?one?of?these?seven?tips?to?forward?your?life?and?career。

即使是最有才華的人，也只能從讀書、從實(shí)驗(yàn)室實(shí)驗(yàn)中以及坐在課堂上聽課收獲知識。真正的學(xué)習(xí)來源于經(jīng)歷這個世界，看清自己身處其中的位置。在你的生活和職業(yè)中，嘗試應(yīng)用上述這七個人生小貼士。