1. Pay a compliment
1.稱贊對(duì)方

When you meet someone for the first time, pay that person a compliment when repeating their name, thus helping to anchor and embed it even deeper into your memory.
你第一次見到某個(gè)人時(shí)，重復(fù)對(duì)方名字時(shí)稱贊對(duì)方，這有助于你記住對(duì)方的名字并加深這個(gè)記憶。

2. Ask lots of questions—good questions
2.多問問題——問好問題

How do you give your conversation partner the pleasure of a good conversation? Ask them questions—a lot of questions, and ones that call for more than vague one-word answers. This may lay the groundwork for a true friendship.
你怎么能讓聊天對(duì)象有好的聊天體驗(yàn)？問他們問題，問很多不是含糊的一個(gè)詞就能回答的問題，這會(huì)給你們真正的友誼打下基礎(chǔ)。

3. Make a game out of small talk
3.利用閑聊做游戲

Say something like, ‘Tell me three things about your company, and I’ll guess what company it is.’ Or, ‘What’s that you’re drinking? Wait—let me guess.’.”
你可以這樣說：“告訴我關(guān)于你們公司的三件事，我來猜猜這是什么公司，”或者“你在喝什么？等等，讓我猜猜”。

4. Try to make their day better
4.盡量讓他們高興

You can ask these questions: “On a scale of one to ten, how was your day?” Anyone can think of a number between one and ten. After they respond, ask them this: “Is there anything I can do to move you from a six to a seven?” You’d be surprised how happy this little gesture will make someone.
你可以問這些問題：“1分到10分，你今天的心情打幾分？”每個(gè)人都能想出1-10的一個(gè)數(shù)字，他們回答之后，再問：“我能做點(diǎn)什么讓你從6分變成7分？”你會(huì)驚訝地發(fā)現(xiàn)這個(gè)小舉動(dòng)會(huì)讓對(duì)方很開心。

5. Play the sympathy card
5.打同情牌

“I once went to a party and met a very beautiful woman whose job was to help celebrities wear Harry Winston jewelry. I could tell that she was disappointed, but when I told her that her job sounded difficult to me she brightened and spoke for 30 straight minutes about sapphires,” Paul Ford wrote in his essay.
Paul Ford在隨筆中寫道：“我曾去參加一個(gè)聚會(huì)，遇到一個(gè)非常漂亮的女士，她的工作是幫名人戴海瑞·溫斯頓（珠寶品牌）的首飾，我能看出來她很失望，但當(dāng)我告訴她她的工作對(duì)我來說很難時(shí)她就高興了，跟我連續(xù)聊了30分鐘藍(lán)寶石的話題。”

6. Seek their opinion
6.征求對(duì)方意見

If you ask someone for advice or a favor and they oblige you, they will be psychologically primed to like you and help you again.
如果你征求某人的意見或求對(duì)方幫忙，他們會(huì)幫你的，他們會(huì)在心里開始喜歡你，還會(huì)再次幫你。

7. Pass the topic to someone else
7.把話題留給別人

Not everyone is going to be fascinated by that documentary you’re obsessed with. Let other people contribute to the conversation. If they change the topic when given the chance, let it go.
不是每個(gè)人都會(huì)被你喜歡的紀(jì)錄片吸引，讓別人也參與到對(duì)話中，如果給對(duì)方機(jī)會(huì)時(shí)對(duì)方轉(zhuǎn)移話題了，那你就不要管了。

8. Repetition is key
8.關(guān)鍵是要重復(fù)

Start by repeating the last thing the person said to sum up their point. That’s very effective because you’re saying, ‘I’ve been listening to you.’
你可以開始重復(fù)對(duì)方說的最后一件事來總結(jié)對(duì)方的看法，這招很有效，因?yàn)槟闶窃诟嬖V對(duì)方：“我一直在聽你說話?！?/div>

9. Exit gracefully
9.優(yōu)雅地結(jié)束對(duì)話

If you’re at a party, excuse yourself to get a drink; if you’re at work, you can leave to get some coffee. You can also say, ‘It’s nice talking to you, but I have to talk to someone before they leave.”
如果你在參加聚會(huì)，可以找借口說去拿點(diǎn)喝的。如果是在工作，可以起身去喝點(diǎn)咖啡。你還可以說：“跟你聊天真開心，但我得趕在別人離開前跟他說幾句話?！?/div>

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（翻譯：菲菲）