1. Ask for a helping hand
1.尋求幫助

Helping questions are great conversation starters because when a person helps you it forms natural bonds. When you help another person to figure what an item is on the buffet or locate the restroom, it lowers your defenses.
尋求幫助的問題是很好的開場(chǎng)白，因?yàn)楫?dāng)一個(gè)人幫你的時(shí)候你們很自然地就形成了一種聯(lián)系。你幫別人弄清楚自助餐有什么或者找洗手間時(shí)你的防御就降低了。

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2. Compliment something other than someone’s looks
2.贊美點(diǎn)外表之外的東西

Instead of complimenting something generic like their eyes, highlight something that shows their personality, like their purse or a book.
不要贊美別人的眼睛這樣天生的東西，要著重強(qiáng)調(diào)能展現(xiàn)他們個(gè)性的東西，比如包或書。

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3. Bring up a shared interest
3.聊共同的興趣

Many people think they have nothing in common with a stranger but if someone is at a restaurant or bar they are there for a reason. You’re both there so you both share a common interest.
很多人認(rèn)為和陌生人沒什么共同點(diǎn)，但如果有人出現(xiàn)在一家餐廳或酒吧，那一定是有原因的。你們都出現(xiàn)在那兒，一定是有共同的興趣。

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4. Go simple… yet bold
4.簡(jiǎn)單一點(diǎn)，但也要大膽

Give a genuine smile and say, “Hi.” It sounds too simple but shows the other person that you’ve noticed them and you’re interested in getting to know them better. And you’ll almost always get a hello back.
帶著真誠(chéng)的微笑說：“嗨”，雖然很簡(jiǎn)單但能讓對(duì)方感到你注意到他們并且想要更多地了解他們，你經(jīng)常也能得到一個(gè)回應(yīng)。

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5. Ask for their honest opinion
5.詢問對(duì)方真實(shí)的想法

It shows your interest in the other person. Pretty much anyone will want to share their opinions with an interested party and they will think you are nice and fun to be with, as well.
這表明你對(duì)對(duì)方感興趣，幾乎所有人都想跟感興趣的人分享自己的想法，他們也會(huì)認(rèn)為你很好，相處起來很有趣。

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6. Tell a bonding joke
6.講一個(gè)能讓你們建立親密關(guān)系的笑話

If a woman laughs at a man’s joke, he feels assured that she has a level of comfort with him. For her, laughing releases oxytocin, the ‘bonding hormone.’ These two things together create an opening for more conversation.
如果一個(gè)男人講的笑話讓女人笑了，他會(huì)感覺她跟自己聊天很舒服。而對(duì)這個(gè)女人來說，笑能釋放后葉催產(chǎn)素，一種“產(chǎn)生聯(lián)系的激素”。這兩種影響放在一起就能開啟更多的對(duì)話。

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7. Give an out-of-the-blue compliment
7.給出意外的稱贊

You can test out doing this by just giving people walking down the street a compliment and see their reaction, most times people will give you a smile and possibly engage in more conversation.
你可以試試，稱贊一個(gè)正在街上走的人并看看他們的反應(yīng)，大多數(shù)時(shí)候他們會(huì)對(duì)你微笑，還有可能會(huì)跟你聊起來。

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8. Get (pop) cultured
8.接觸（流行）文化

Make a comment or joke about something big in pop culture that most people would be familiar with—something light, NOT political.
評(píng)論一下或拿大多數(shù)人都熟悉的流行文化中的大人物開個(gè)玩笑，但要開輕松的玩笑，不要涉及政治。

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9. Ask a fake favor
9.假裝需要幫助

People love to help so asking for a small favor is a great conversation starter. If you don’t have a favor to ask for, just make one up.
人們都喜歡幫忙，所以讓人幫點(diǎn)小忙是很好的開場(chǎng)白，如果你不需要什么幫助，可以假裝一下。

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10. Show your silly side
10.表現(xiàn)出笨的一面

Asking a question with a little humor is a great move. Say you’re in a grocery store, ask, ‘This is very important: What is the best apple ever? Granny Smith or Red Delicious?
問問題時(shí)帶點(diǎn)小幽默也不錯(cuò)，比如你在商店里就可以問：“這個(gè)問題很重要：什么蘋果最好？綠蘋果（澳大利亞的一種青綠色蘋果）還是蛇果？”

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（翻譯：菲菲）